It’s almost 2009, how is your dating life going to be different this year??

For single women:

1. Look strangers in the eye and smile at them, especially the ones you’re attracted to.

Sometimes women smile at strangers of the same sex, older people and men they aren’t attracted to, because it feels safe. Then they wonder why the ones they like don’t notice them and the ones they don’t like always do! Dating isn’t safe, but it’s the risk that’s all part of the fun and excitement. What’s the worst thing that could happen? They don’t smile back. OH well. What’s the best that could happen? The cute guy thinks you’re cute back and actually approaches you and asks you out! (and you end up getting married and living happily ever after with 2.5 kids in the suburbs with a picket fence…—okay, let’s not get ahead of ourselves!)

2. Make a proactive effort to get out of your safe, comfortable inner circle and meet new people.

That’s the number one way to get your love life started. Think about it. Same faces every week= no new dates.

For single men:

1. Introduce yourself to strangers you find attractive.

Make a goal, like five women a week! It’s a numbers game. Think of every “no” you get as a necessary evil that brings you one step closer to a “yes.” (and the girl of your dreams!)

2. Write down a list of why you are a great catch.

Try to think of at least 30 reasons! Ask trusted friends, siblings or parents if you’re stuck. You need to be confident when you go out into the dating world. What better way to increase your confidence than to spell out exactly why women would be lucky to be with you?

For both single men and women:

Remember, confidence is a choice, not a feeling. Read the awesome article here: How to Become More Confident

(It’s addressed to women, but men, read on. The principles still apply)

For men and women in a relationship:

1. Reconnect with friends you’ve grown apart from because of your relationship. They miss you.

2. Evaluate your life. Is he/she really your number one priority? You can tell by what’s going on with your:

• minutes
• money
• mouth

It’s one thing to say something or someone is your top priority; it’s another thing to prove it through your actions. Basically, does how you speak, who you spend time with, and where you spend your money reflect that this person is the most important person to you?

I hope everyone is enjoying the holidays! Happy New Year!