You Gotta be Crazy about Her
It’s quite perplexing, the number of emails I get from men who say things like, “I’m not that attracted to her… should I go out with her?” or “I’m not sure if I’m really that into her… what should I do?”
Here’s one:
I’m not overly attracted to her, but I do enjoy talking with her, and she is a nice person, but I’m just not sure it’s a good idea…. And, as I said, probably the most important thing is, I’m not really attracted to her, physically. What do you think about this situation?
Here’s what I said to that:
I highly recommend NOT going for the girl you are just not that into. I encourage men to pursue women who they are completely utterly attracted to both inside and out. It’s already a difficult task to win a woman’s heart, might as well hold out for the one that is worthy!
Make sure she is a worthy investment guys. Find a gem. Find a ruby. And then give it all you’ve got. If you are just prone to love her, if you are naturally drawn to her, then you won’t even have to ask me the question. Hold out for that girl. You will know because you will be compelled to go after her. You will instead be asking me questions like “how can I get her?”
Think of Jacob. Here’s his story. It says that he worked for Rachel 14 years total! Here’s the deal:
Genesis 29:20
So Jacob served seven years (the first time) to get Rachel, but they seemed like only a few days to him because of his love for her.
That’s how it should feel to love the woman you go after!
January 13th, 2011 at 4:41 am
I partly disagree with this because I think many of us conditioned by the media to feel that the sparks always fly from the moment that you meet, yet some of the best relationships are built on friendship, which clearly started with 2 people who got along but there was no attraction.
January 13th, 2011 at 5:32 pm
Hi AS, I’m not saying that you can’t fall in love with a friend and that attraction cannot slowly develop. What I’m saying is that when you do consider someone to be more than a friend, by that point you should be crazy about her. Sometimes it takes time and getting to really know someone better to find that they are so beautiful inside and that actually impacts how you view them and increases your level of attraction towards them. If you find yourself prone to love, compelled to love a woman who is a friend, in a way that is more than platonic, then at that point your attraction for her has increased. I think every woman out there has a man who find her his “type”, if she isn’t striving after beauty or hiding from it. Her natural beauty appeals to some man. I’m just saying, if you’re unsure if you’re attracted to a woman, don’t go after her. Let her find her prince. She deserves to be swept off her feet by a man who is enthralled with her.
January 15th, 2011 at 9:49 am
Most men know, right when we see a woman if we want her. It takes x chromosomed earthlings, time to warm up to a man.
January 16th, 2011 at 4:58 pm
hunter! LOL! sooo true….