You can’t expect more than you can dish out.

A famous 85 year old matchmaker has successfully matched over 50 married couples. Quite impressive. She’s good at what she does because she calls a spade a spade. She says that in her experience, people’s expectations are not in line with what they can offer.

One day this overweight man came in and filled out an application. He said he wanted a 6’0 statuesque blonde model. The feisty matchmaker quickly got up, led him to a full length mirror, and pointing at the reflection said, “Now if you were a 6’0 statuesque blonde model, would you go out with this guy?”

Ouch.

In the matchmaking industry, the majority of overweight men want skinny women. The majority of short women want tall guys.

People, set high standards for yourselves not only in what you want but in what you can offer. Some things you can’t change like height, yes. In those cases, you might want to consider being a little more realistic. But some things you can change. Take care of yourselves if want a person who takes care of themselves. Deal with your hurts, hang-ups, bad habits and addictions if you want someone who’s also dealt with their own baggage and isn’t going to pile it on you. Read more and develop a love of learning if you want someone smart.

But opposites attract, you rationalize. True, but I really think that has more to do with personalities. When it comes to attracting quality people, the majority of the time, you attract who you are.