For Single Guys

Why Nice Guys Finish Last

The nice-guy-stuck-in-the-friend-zone song:

got this from le love. amazingly honest and true. (beware curse words!)

You want to know why nice guys finish last?

It’s because they aren’t willing to take a chance, they’re too tied to their rules.

They see their girl at her most vulnerable moment, and instead of doing what they perceive as a dick move, they put their arms around her and they hold her.

They listen to her weep and they don’t take control of the situation.

She’s too precious to cut off.

Let her weep.

Let me tell you this:

nothing makes a broken woman feel more beautiful than to have a man swoop in and push her up against a wall to tell her how much better she is than that.

To kiss her, I mean really kiss her, regardless of what she might think about that.

You know why nice guys finish last?

It’s because when a guy named Bayne leaves you for no good reason and you feel like you’ve been reduced to nothing, my nice guy won’t come over and say the things I really need to hear to understand that he loves me, I mean really loves me.

Us ladies, we know we’re beautiful, we know we’re intelligent, we know we’re worth it and we’ll find “him” someday.

What we really need to hear and more importantly feel (at that moment — from you, the nice guy)) is that we’re sexy, that our inner organs that separate us from you guys are actually worth something.

That we’re so beautiful that you can’t and don’t care whether or not that kiss you’ve so desperately wanted to plant on us is going to ruin our friendship.

We want you, the nice guy, to rebel against your rules and just do what feels right.

Take control of the situation and tell us that this is fucking it, you are in love with me.

You are so in love with me that you are so unbelievably ready to ruin our friendship for a chance at love.

That you are willing to pick up that bat and attempt to hit the ball out of the fucking stadium.

Because either you strike out or you hit a home run.

No one wants to sit in the dugout.

But you don’t.

You sit in the dugout and you tell us that we’re pretty, and not fat.

That we’re worth it.

And that Bayne is just stupid and doesn’t know what he’s missing.

You’re too nice.

You’re too good of a friend.

Be a man.

Make the call.

Try your best to force us to love you.

Because in the end, you’re right.

Nice guys do finish last.

So how about you buck up and become something else.

Because otherwise you’re going to lose us, you’re going to lose me.

Nice guys finish last because they’re pussies.

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  1. Allan

    Hey! You’re hatin’ on my song!

  2. MidoriLei

    I know. Sorry! But you know it’s true!

  3. hunter

    Some nice guys finish last, because they were never taught to be a practical man.

  4. MidoriLei

    what do you mean by a “practical man” hunter?

  5. Anonymous

    What a great blog. Im truly a fan of your writing as well as your writing style. Dont stop writing. Keep up the good work.

  6. cele

    “…kiss her, I mean really kiss her, regardless of what she might think about that.”
    in the past, whenever i have just grabbed a woman and kissed her for the first time, i have always felt like i violated her because from the time we are boys, we are taught not to be rough with girls.

    so how do i know when i should just go for it and kiss her as opposed to when going for it would be a violation ? its almost sounds as if the woman doesn’t want to be kissed until she is kissed. which suggests that she doesn’t know what she wants. some women claim that i will know by the signals that she sends me – all the women that i ended up dating never gave me any signals that they were ready to be kissed – in the end i just blindly went for it and hey presto she responded positively.

    so, if women are serious about wanting a man to “Take control of the situation and tell us that this is fucking it” then you are basically suggesting that men should disregard whatever she says and just go for it……….right ???

    OR if a guys does what he wants and gets his way regardless of what the woman says then he wins and if a guy pays attention to what the woman is saying then he is loser and doesn’t deserve any

  7. hunter

    While looking into her eyes, get physically close to her, during the conversation, (you or her talking), if she takes a step back, she does not want to be kissed, if she doesn’t move, go for the peck on her lips, the first one must be a small one…….

  8. Burni

    What you have describe here, is not a nice guy. A nice guy will never “force” a girl to do ANYTHING.
    You have describe an inconciderate asshole who will not a nice girl happy.

    Maybe you just dont want a nice guy, but DO NOT tell every guy who actually cares about his female friends enough and respects them enough to not take advantage of them that he should change.

    I feel like this entire article is full of shit and is a disgrace to the original article that it seems to a response to. If we “rebel against our ideals” we’re simply not ourselves anymore. What would taking advantage of a vulnerable girl when she’s just had her heart broken acomplish other than guilt and shame? If it gives you anything more than that, you are a sick and uncaring individual going into a relationship for your own personal gain, and then, you are NOT a nice guy.

    How about we “buck up and become something else”? Well because that would mean we would become just as fake as you are, dear author.

  9. MidoriLei

    Burni,

    You make a good point. It’s not nice to “force” anyone to do anything. Maybe the more appropriate word would be to “persuade” or “convince” or even better, instead of a nice guy just hiding in the shadows, he needs to stop just trying to comfort the girl he wants. He needs to PURSUE her.

    I don’t think that trying to kiss her when she’s vulnerable is taking advantage of her if he truly cares about her and wants to be with her romantically. It would only be taking advantage of her if he just wanted to be physical and that was it.

  10. Charger96

    This is totally bullshit. The only girls that are like that are sluts and whores, not to be rude but just ask any guy. The guys who are “bad” are the pussies they need to grow up. You writing this must have no experience with guys. I lost the love of my life because I wasn’t a nice guy. Everyday I think about her, every night I dream about her. But since I wasn’t the kind,caring guy that she needed, now I’m just left wondering what could have been

    • MidoriLei

      Charger96, I’m sorry you lost the love of your life. This article, the girl who wrote it about her guy friend, I don’t think she was saying that she didn’t like that he was caring, I think she was saying that he ALSO needed to man up and tell her his feelings.

      The only girls that are like “that,” are sluts and whores? What do you mean like “that?”

      You have to be a nice guy (as in caring and kind) to keep a woman, yes, but the point of this article is that you ALSO have to show and SAY your feelings. I think you are misreading what the message is here.

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