DO NOT AGREE TO THESE TERMS.
I’m not suggesting you demand that she sees you romantically.
I’m also not suggesting you start stalking her.
THERE IS ONLY ONE WAY FOR A MAN TO WIN IN THIS SITUATION.
Ok, she wants you to only be friends. I think you should respect her and stop pursuing her romantically. Not to say that there isn’t a possibility of something in the future, but for now, respect her wishes.
BUT, listen closely. With that wish, she also has to deal with something else.
I suggest that you also do NOT remain friends with her.
If there is any chance that she will see you romantically, sooner rather than later or NEVER, the probability of it happening increases DRAMATICALLY if you do not offer emotional support as a friend .
This seems mean, but let me tell you, a man NEVER has to offer friendship to a woman. That’s what girl friends are for.
ESPECIALLY if the man is interested in the woman romantically. This is only meeting her emotional needs without getting anything in return. In other words, if you are interested in a woman romantically and settle for a friendship, you are allowing her to step all over you and use you.
What do I mean by this? I mean that you are offering her what she needs most (emotional support) without her having to satisfy your need (that romantic connection)
A man should not stick around and settle for friendship if he wants more.
It is an act of martyrdom and one that women internally don’t respect.
They may not realize this, but they start feeling like they can walk all over you, demand anything, take you forgranted, basically NOT the position you want to be in. All because you agreed to these terms you didn’t want to agree to. All because they know you think they’re cute and they can get away with things. I don’t want men to be manipulated!
You lose respect for a man who will sit around and just be your friend when he really wants more.
Watch what happens: You agree to this “just friend” role. She starts liking a new guy. You end up being the guy who hears about the new guy. YUCK. Then you become the pushover who gets to hear about the new guy all the while wishing you were him.
And boy, she will surely lose respect for you at this point, and you’re taking a big step in the opposite direction of attracting her.
If you have any chance of her seeing you romantically, she has to have a chance to miss what you provided her emotionally, and you can only do this if you do not offer her friendship.
In my past there was this man who pursued me diligently and I declined, even though I was MADLY attracted to him. I declined because at the time I wanted to be single and I thought he was too young.
Finally I told him, “I’m not interested, but we can be friends.” His response, I will FOREVER respect and admire:
Take note gentlemen, this is how to respond:
“Sorry sweetie, I have enough friends. And God knows, I could never look at you and see you as just a friend.”
It was a compliment and a great way to decline my offer for friendship.
To this day, I still think about him with such high regard. Never played games, pursued me with all diligence and made my heart melt. It is the BEST way to exit a romantic situation when the girl gives you the “let’s just be friends” line.
That was the last time we ever spoke, but he left an impression on me. THAT is how a man needs to react.
If things started off smoothly and there were romantic sparks but then something went awry, what I suggest you do is first ask her what happened…
Was there ever a romantic spark on her part? If so, what changed it? That way, you can leave the situation having learned something to apply to the next woman you pursue. Then I would LEAVE HER ALONE.
Do not send “friendly flowers.”
Show her that if she is not with you romantically, she doesn’t receive the benefits of romance.
She will respond in one of two ways: She will miss you and realize that she does want you and come crawling back… or she will forget about you… and you will forget about her. Either way, you will walk away a winner.