Beautiful flowers from my nana

Mercy is an act of kindness and compassion given to the undeserving.

I am sure there are some people reading this, at their wit’s end, feeling hopeless and feeling like there is nothing they can do to save their marriage/relationship.

They are being treated so terribly by their partner, and they don’t know what else to do.

Listen to this story:

If you want to save your relationship, you have to do something this merciful. People don’t really display permanent change because of fear, rejection, threats and ultimatums. They change when they see goodness.

Kindness causes people to turn from their ways.

If you feel like you’ve tried EVERYTHING, ask yourself,

Have I tried to bestow unmerited, unconditional, unnecessary, unselfish, radical, unfair, undeserved acts of kindness to my spouse?

It is TRULY a divine miracle when one can give goodness to the undeserving.

Even if/ and especially if this undeserving person is your spouse or partner.

Do you think the kid who went home with a full belly and an extra 20 bucks will NOT be changed by this strange encounter? A seed of kindness has been planted. Our world craves to see justice, but we are profoundly shocked when we see an act of mercy. The shock factor is what made this story hit NPR.

Why are we deeply moved by acts of mercy?

Because it elevates us beyond our warring human state, the nature within us that wants to esteem individuality over community, the part of us whose sole purpose is to protect the self in the survival of the fittest. The part of us who is primarily concerned with me, me, me.

Your spouse is hurting or has been hurt. Hurt people, hurt people. Beyond the harsh exterior, there is an isolated, unfulfilled, sad little person who needs to be changed by a miracle.

Give them mercy.