What Guys Really Think…
This was an anonymous myspace bulletin that my friend Nick posted up. Thanks Nick!
We don’t care if you talk to other guys. We don’t care if you’re friends with other guys.
But when you’re sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn’t help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we’re still there.
We don’t care if a guy calls you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.
Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can’t wait till the morning.
Also, when we tell you you’re pretty / beautiful / gorgeous / cute / stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don’t tell us we’re wrong. We’ll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me.
Don’t be mad when we hold the door open. Take advantage of the mood we’re in.
Let us pay for you! Don’t “feel bad.” We enjoy doing it. It’s expected. Smile and say “thank you.”
Kiss us when no one’s watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody’s looking, we’ll be more impressed.
You don’t have to get dressed up for us. If we’re going out with you in the first place, you don’t have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you’re wearing.
Honestly, I think a girl looks more beautiful when she’s just in her pj’s or a t-shirt and boxers, not all dolled up.
Don’t take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don’t get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don’t talk about how hot Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It’s boring, and we don’t care. You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word “handsome” / “beautiful”? I’d be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with “Hey handsome!” instead of “Hey baby / stud / cutie / sexy” or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand, I’m not saying I wouldn’t like it either; )
Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren’t being treated right by a guy, don’t wait for him to change. Ditch his sorry disgrace to the male population *** and find someone who will treat you with utter respect.
Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you’re at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they’re doing just to look you in the eyes….and say “I love you” ..and actually mean it.
Give the nice guys a chance.
Some other random stuff….
*Holdin Hands
Girls :If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of times.
Guys : Grab it if it happens more than once.
*Cuddling
Girls : When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you’re cold.
Guys : Automatically move closer to her.
*Movies
Girls : During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt your head on his shoulder.
Guys : Lift her chin up and kiss her.
*Loving each other
Guys : When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her too… And mean it.
*Laying below the stars
Girls : When you’re both laying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat.
Guys : Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers.
April 1st, 2008 at 4:01 pm
What a wonderful article! Thanks so much!
September 12th, 2008 at 8:42 pm
diz iS rEAlLy NiCE i likE iT =]]
March 28th, 2009 at 11:14 am
Aww, this si so cute. And some parts made me laugh,
i like it a lot
March 31st, 2009 at 11:14 am
This is the guy i need. Who are you and are you single?
March 31st, 2009 at 10:45 pm
Somehow, I don’t think Nick’s dream girl exists. If a woman is very attractive she will get telephone calls at odd times of the night, she will come accros interruptions, they do get angry(’cause she has been hurt before, she was not my private discovery), they don’t care for nice guys, most nice guys are inexperienced, boring, and life is too short, compliments come to them several times a day, they don’t know who really means it, most women are highly attracted to men that don’t treat them right, etc……..
April 10th, 2009 at 12:57 am
Uhm hi, can we get married? Please?
May 7th, 2009 at 12:59 am
haha, your advice is cool. i think more guys should be more like that. taking initiative of the whole mood and going for it too. i know guys have feelings as girls and don’t show it, but i think it’s cool if they do show it instead of acting cool, it’s really hard to tell what they are feeling or when they are actually being honest with you then just joking around. us girls sometimes have to make the moves first before the boys. we do hate that. be straight forward..We like that you know. i think confidence is in everyones mind right now. anyways it’s my opinion. thanx for this post. its nice to see what a guy thinks.
July 3rd, 2009 at 7:59 pm
ok…u r AMAZING!!! my best friends sent this 2 me and i almost cried!! this is sooooo cute!! if a guy like this is actualy alive…..omg!! just know that alot of girls will think u r AMAZING!!!!
July 6th, 2009 at 4:59 am
wow! only if all the guys ahd the smae mentality- believe me all girls would kill to have a man like that…… that’s including me.
Those are nice TIPS…….. i like them a lot
August 10th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
Finally something that shows people how we can genuinely think and feel. Many conversations with friends have led me to believe nice guys will finish last. Something I would add to the list is that we have the honest thought to ask you how your day was and intently listen to your answer. My father, oddly enough, gets uncomfortable when I ask him how work was every day but I always get an answer! I haven’t been able to get into a relationship yet, but hopefully someday a girl will fall for my “nice-guy” charms.
August 10th, 2009 at 2:32 pm
Great Article,
And great tips for a women I”m writing all this down. Although I LOVE NICE GUYS! I have one as a boyfriend. And it is true about calling your guy handsome and beautiful. They do love it. There almost like a plant or food. If you put love in what your doing. It will bloom and even say your beautiful
August 10th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Awsum!! i’m a nice girl (IMO=)) looking for a truly nice guy..i did get sidetracked by a jerk first because he took the initiative and the other (nice) guys were more laid back..but after coming to my senses i’m single till a MAN comes along. -no matter how long it takes!! kudos to all the “nice” guys/girls out there=)
August 21st, 2009 at 10:41 pm
Thank you so muh!! This is way cool. It’s nice to know that no matter how many guys I meet or how discouraged I get that they all seem like “jerks”. There are decent Godly guys out there who want and fell the same way we girls do!!!
August 31st, 2009 at 4:01 pm
Thank you for posting this. I always find it interesting to hear thing sfroma guys point of view. Sometimes girls just need to be reminded that guys think bout all of those things as well.
September 6th, 2009 at 12:10 pm
no all these comments are bs…im a guy like this and ive only had one gf in my life and im 18 im still a virgin and no girl will give me a chance bc im not a douche bag…and ive been told im attractive by many girls its just they only want to be friends with me bc im like this so girls here is some advice…date your guy friends if you can already stand to be around them all the time and find them nice and fun don’t let the whole “he is like my brother” or “i dont want to ruin the friendship” get in your way
September 30th, 2009 at 7:41 pm
ok common myth expulsion number one: women like bad boys.
no. we don’t love bad boys, we just like them temporarily for their looks. in a real search for a good relationship, the “bad boys” never work. men, don’t waste your time on a girl that’s only looking at superficial stuff like that, cause she won’t appreciate the effort it is taking you to be nice and gentlemanly.
i really love this article. i’m a girl and i look for this kind of attitude in guys, and sometimes i get discouraged because i think none like this are left. but this article gives me hope that you respectable guys are in fact out there!
November 22nd, 2009 at 10:22 pm
i agree with this whole thing! even if i am a chick, not many people know this but a lot of serious guys and girls do think a like even if there a dude doesn’t mean there heartless and all because there a chick doesn’t mean there all bimbos
November 22nd, 2009 at 10:23 pm
plus just as guys i rather be called like beautiful/ pretty then sexy hot etc.
November 24th, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Awe I love this;
I hope all guys feel this way. ^_^
December 21st, 2009 at 7:20 am
Omg! That sounds just like my boyfriend! Like no joke! Soo cute! And to everyone who’s reading it, guys like that are out there. I have one on the phone as we speak(:
January 14th, 2010 at 5:25 pm
Ok, this is wonderful. And I just want to say, I can’t STAND “bad” boys. They make me gag. “Good” boys instantly become super hot to me, especially if they love Jesus!
We need more of these
January 14th, 2010 at 6:36 pm
Ever, I’m sure all the ‘nice guys’ who think they are finishing last wish they knew you!
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:44 am
thats one of the best articles i have read recently on this problem thank you
February 12th, 2010 at 10:36 pm
Ok.. Ok.. I you guys just started dating but you really like this guy and this guy really likes you but…… You want to hold his hand or hug him and he doesent? What do you do? Because i love him alot but… Idk!!! I love you B!!!!!!!!!!!!
But its still really good!! I’m totally gonna do this!!!
Love, Kk
March 22nd, 2010 at 8:13 pm
A lot of the girls like this guy because they’re picturing Tommy Lee or Jonny Depp saying these things. Bad boys who “could” feel this way. However, most girls would never date THIS guy. He’s a bit weak and his behavior probably comes off needy. Girls hate needy guys. Sorry to burst the bubble. Just talking based upon dating experience.
March 30th, 2010 at 11:08 am
yeah i rily likes this article. GOOD JOB! its so hard to come up with things for both sexes to do
thanks!
April 4th, 2010 at 6:03 am
no women exist like this. Some of my best friends are girls and they NEVER understand that they date crap guys. I’m sorry, i’m sure some of you meet nice guys and date them without fuss. But for the majority you don’t. Like my friends and when they break their hearts, and leave you a crying depressed mess, I’m always here to tell them it will be okay and that they would have learned from it, and yet they never do. As a constant nice guy i’m quite frankly sick of watching nice girls get their hearts broken again and again and agin by the same type of guys.
April 5th, 2010 at 9:38 pm
Bitter_one, have you read this post?
http://datingadvicefromagirl.com/why-nice-guys-finish-last_1343/
April 30th, 2010 at 7:29 pm
Bitter one I know what you mean. I am a girl, I have a boyfriend and he’s so hot and cold. But if he was over sensitive I wouldn’t Luke it but it doesn’t mean I like bad boys. He’s far from bad, but it bothers me how hot and cold guys can be. Like one minute he”ll tell me I’m ” amazing” and such and then sometimes he seems bored with me and just sais he loves me ( we love each other but were not sure if were IN love yet) but sometimes it seems like he sais it because he feels obligated. Am I paranoid? Why am I so scared that if I tell him how I. Feel he’ll think I’m a pathetic, needy girl which I’m not. So you see even the nice guys make us cry and be a mess.
May 12th, 2010 at 11:08 pm
I use to date jerks all of the time. Here are a couple of the reasons that I did.
1. I didn’t feel that I deserved any better. I was sure that any really good guy would eventually see the real me and hate me as much as I hated myself.
2. Growing up I learned that no one was nice to you unless they expected something from you. It was easy to figure out what jerks wanted. But I could never figure out what the nice guys wanted. I thought it must be something really big. Dating a nice guy made me feel really anxious because I was always waiting for them to demand something really huge from me. I was always waiting for them to drop a bombshell on me.
3. Jerks will promise you the world because they never plan on keeping any of their promises. Growing up in an unhappy environment made me desperate to have the kind of happiness that they promised. I was an honest person and believed others were too. I paid more attention to men’s words than their actions.
Basically, it comes down to the fact that dating jerks made me feel more comfortable because they are the kind of men that I grew up with and I knew what to expect from them. Dating nice guys made me feel very uncomfortable because I was always waiting for them to demand something of me or leave me for someone better.
July 7th, 2010 at 9:30 pm
umm are you single? you sound like the sweetest guy!!!!
July 9th, 2010 at 9:17 pm
“Somehow, I don’t think Nick’s dream girl exists. If a woman is very attractive she will get telephone calls at odd times of the night, she will come accros interruptions, they do get angry(’cause she has been hurt before, she was not my private discovery), they don’t care for nice guys, most nice guys are inexperienced, boring, and life is too short, compliments come to them several times a day, they don’t know who really means it, most women are highly attracted to men that don’t treat them right, etc……..”
Okay, is this a guy talking? Because he is an idiot. No girl likes a guy that treats her badly, not for long anyway! So the first description would be a guy more girls like. That is, a realistic girl.
July 23rd, 2010 at 12:06 am
there should be more guys like you:)