I think I’m still single because of the three men who are closest to my heart: my father and my two brothers. They each have their faults, but together, with each of their best qualities, they make the perfect man.
When I meet guys, they seem to fall short of this standard that I’ve grown accustomed to. I want a man who will be all the good things, the best of what I’ve experienced from these three men in my life.
My father’s a rock. He is ambitious and a hard worker. A provider. A protector. A respected leader.
My older brother is a the wisest man I know. He thinks outside the box. He loves people and doesn’t extend judgment but unconditional love and acceptance. He serves diligently. I respect him as my spiritual superior because he hungers and thirsts for truth like no other. He isn’t ashamed to verbalize that he loves me. He is honest but tactful.
And my youngest brother is my best friend. He knows me inside and out. He loves to eat and cook and try new things. He is a realist. He laughs at my jokes and provides a good dose of random dry wit. I respect him as my intellectual superior. He knows that sometimes I can think of things that are bizarre, shallow or inappropriate but he never judges me. He loves to hear about my daily life. He loves learning about things I hate but need: things like finances, computers, taxes, and cars.
All three of these men possess integrity and unconditionally love me.
If you don’t have examples of men like this in your life, they’re out there, but probably not where you’re looking. They don’t frequent the bar scene. You won’t meet them grinding with a stranger at a club.
My two brothers are still single by choice. When asked why my 20 year-old brother is still single, he responds with, “I want to make sure I have my ducks in a row.” It’s like he’s saying, I want my life in order for the woman I bring into it. My older brother is single because he’s in the infantile stages of a business venture and wants to make enough money to support his woman.
Can you believe these men? So while you may be hopping around, scanning the bar scene for men like these, most likely these men are somewhere else, busily preparing their lives for a woman deserving of what they have to offer. I think that it’s fair to say that a man should be able to expect what he himself can offer. Most women are so concerned with finding Mr. Right, they almost forget that they have to be Ms. Right to complete the equation.