Oh Gosh. I wish I didn’t have a “type.” You know, I really blame it on my sixth grade crush, Nicholas Dragoo. Caucasian brunette boy with kind eyes. If you ever read this Nicholas, I just want to say, you screwed me over for life! Nah, I’m just kidding. Don’t worry, I also blame it on the media.
The media perpetuates my “type.” One day this thought came to my mind. I looked at the majority of romantic comedies, superhero movies or tv shows out there and discovered that the leading men who are attached to a love interest were usually Caucasian brunettes! To make my point, I’ve made a list of many popular movies and tv shows that have a leading man who just happens to be a Caucasian brunette.
TV Shows (also the ones I grew up watching)
My So Called Life: Jordan Catalano
Gilmore Girls: Jess Mariano
American Dreams: Scout Calhoun and Hamilton Fleming
Roswell: Michael Guerin
Highschool Musical: Troy Bolton
Dawson’s Creek: Pacey Witter(he gets the girl)
Gossip Girl: Nate Archebald
Laguna Beach: Stephen Colletti
Private Practice: Pete Wilder
Desperate Housewives: Tom Scavo, Mike Delfino
Veronica Mars:Stosh ‘Piz’ Piznarski
Men in Trees: Jack Slaterry
Beverly Hills 90210 (90′s): Brandon Walsh, David Silver, Dylan McKay
Beverly Hills 90210 (2008): Ethan Ward
What I like About You: Vince
Party of Five: Bailey Salinger, Charlie Salinger, Griffin Holbrook
Home Improvement: Randy Taylor
Friends: Chandler Bing and Joey Tribiani
Boy Meets World: Shawn Hunter
The Bachelor: Have you noticed almost all of the Bachelors chosen are Caucasian men with light brown hair????
7th Heaven: Matt Camden
What about Brian: Brian Davis, Adam Hillman
Two guys a girl and a pizza place: Berg, JOhnny Donnelly
Samantha who: Todd
Las Vegas: Danny Mccoy
October Road: Eddie Latteka, Nick Garrett
Movies (also the ones I grew up watching)
She’s All That
Boys and Girls
Head over Heals
Down to You
Ten Things I Hate About You
What a Girl Wants
She’s the Man
Catch and Release
Because I Said So
Good Will Hunting
Catch Me if You Can
Thirteen Going on Thirty
Bride and Prejudice
The Man in the Moon
Win a Date with Todd Hamilton
A Walk to Remember
Whatever it Takes
Tristan and Isolde
Music and Lyrics
Pride and Prejudice
Two Weeks Notice
Sense and Sensibility
Romeo and Juliet
The Object of My Affection
Just My Luck
How to Deal
Jane Austen Book Club
Life as a House
These lists are not exhaustive. Here are just some of your leading men ladies. It’s a conspiracy I tell you!LOL
I don’t know why the western world has an obsession with Caucasian men with brown hair. Don’t think my theory holds up? I’m telling you, if you have this “type” it’s because you’ve been conditioned by the media. You weren’t born with this “type.” Well, one more case in point. Take a look at Jesus Christ. Yup. Always portrayed as a Caucasian man with brown hair and kind eyes. In reality, from what we know of Jesus Christ historically and the region he came from, he probably looked more like Osama Bin Laden than the long haired brunette Tarzan in a robe that we make him out to be in the western world.
This Guy, Jim Caviezel, named in 2004 by People Magazine as one of the most beautiful people in the world, played Jesus Christ in The Passion of the Christ. He couldn’t have looked like this guy. (Isaiah 53:2… He had no beauty or majesty to attract us to him, nothing in his appearance that we should desire him.)
Now back to Nicholas Dragoo, my first “real boy in the flesh” crush ever. (Because I don’t count my whole Jonathan Brandis Bop and Big Bopper pinup stage. How embarrassing. Jonathan B. RIP)
Anyway, I was in sixth grade and he “went out” with my best friend, Erica Blackburn. (I had a crush on my best friend’s guy! Don’t worry, I didn’t bust out with any moves) Basically I just admired their “relationship” from a distance. He wasn’t just cute. He was super sweet to Erica. Who knew 6th graders could be so sweet? It was the perfect case of puppy love, and I had to watch it on the sidelines:
I remember during recess one time, he colored a dinosaur for her from a coloring book, cut it out in the shape of a heart and gave it to her. He wanted to give her a ring too, so they could pretend like they were married, but because he didn’t have a ring (being a poor, jobless 6th grader and all) he got out one of his lifesaver candies, and get this, he sucked on it until the hole was big enough to fit her little ring finger. Then he put it on her finger really carefully because it was so tiny and fragile by the time he was done with it. Sticky. Yes. Gross. For sure. But, OH. SO. frickin’. sweet. (not to mention creative)
I think that’s when I realized “real boys in the flesh” didn’t have cooties. And that marked the beginning of my “type.” Caucasian Boys with brown hair and kind eyes. Kind eyes, you know, the kind of eyes that don’t look mean, don’t look like they get angry easily. Guys with kind eyes, smile, with their eyes.
My point isn’t to say you shouldn’t like Caucasian men with brown hair, my point is that we should understand that when we have a “type” it’s because we’ve been conditioned by experience. There’s nothing natural or genetic that makes you drawn to your “type.” Your personal experiences have influenced your type. It has nothing to do with who we have the potential to be attracted to. I bet if black men, Hispanic men, Native American men, Asian men, Indian men, or Red Headed/Blond Caucasian men dominated the cinema, my type might be different.
Having a “type” limits you. The good news is that your “type” is a product of being conditioned, and that means you can recondition yourself to look beyond the kind of men you typically date. A “type” might not just be about your preferences in race, or physical attributes, it can also be your preference for a specific kind of man–Maybe you typically only go for business types, or athletic types, or nerdy types of men. Maybe you have a preference for outgoing men, shy men, doctors, musicians, bad boys, or funny guys. My point is, you can be attracted to all sorts of men and shouldn’t limit yourself to just noticing your “type.”
Not suprisingly, the guy who I fell hard for, the only guy who I can honestly say I loved, even in hindsight, wasn’t my “type” at all! He had black hair and was a Filipino Scottish Canadian.
Regardless of your “type,” you should give every guy a chance. Don’t dismiss him at first glace or first conversation. Of course I’m more of a fan of mutual instant attraction (AKA love at first sight) but it’s nice to know that attraction can grow even if there isn’t something initially.
What are you thoughts?