When it comes to landing a first date and approaching a stranger there’s really only 3 things that are important…
1. You are confident in your approach. Even if you look like a fool, just go with it. A babbling idiot who still goes out there and tries to pursue a girl is hot! Think about it; how many times have you seen the guy fumble when he meets a girl in a romantic comedy?
Here’s my case in point: (monster in law)
He gets the girl. They get married. The way to build confidence is to know that you do have what it takes to make her happy long term. I’ll write another post on that later.
2. You look good. Are looks everything? No. Are they the first thing that people judge? Yes. You might not be Michael Vartan, but you can make the most out of what you’ve got. Ask your buddies about your hair style, or a female friend. Get a second opinion on your wardrobe. Maybe you’re thinking, but I want her to like me for who I am! Truth be told, who you are has more to do with your thoughts, ideas, interests, quirks, character, and personality, and has less to do with what you wear. So with that in mind, keep an open mind when it comes to style. And most importantly, make sure you have fresh breath and good hygiene. Wear cologne, try Proactiv, exercise and get fit. Do everything in your power to naturally look your best so you can also attract someone who is at their best.
3. You make her laugh. I am sooooo not even kidding. Girls will fall for humor! If you’re lacking in the appearance department, you can make up for it by making her laugh! Unlike with looks, being funny is actually a skill you can teach yourself! I cannot STRESS the importance of laughter when you first meet a girl, as it takes away from the awkwardness of the situation and makes the girl loosen up. You break the ice and all of a sudden she is trusting you, just because you made her laugh. And then her guard goes down and you are no longer just a stranger. You are a stranger who made her laugh. And THAT makes all the difference.
The best way to make her laugh in a way that is natural for you is to tell her a true funny story, maybe even something that happened to you! Really good comedy is really about really good story telling. Practice some funny stories on your buddies. If they laugh, use it on a girl:)
Hey, it worked on me! Nate made me laugh by telling me a funny story the first time we met… and the rest is history:)