Oh Gosh. I wish I didn’t have a “type.” You know, I really blame it on my sixth grade crush, Nicholas Dragoo. Caucasian brunette boy with kind eyes. If you ever read this Nicholas, I just want to say, you screwed me over for life! Nah, I’m just kidding. Don’t worry, I also blame it on the media.
The media perpetuates my “type.” One day this thought came to my mind. I looked at the majority of romantic comedies, superhero movies or tv shows out there and discovered that the leading men who are attached to a love interest were usually Caucasian brunettes! To make my point, I’ve made a list of many popular movies and tv shows that have a leading man who just happens to be a Caucasian brunette. Read the rest of this entry »
I made this list last year around New Year’s! Enjoy;)
(Note: Because I’m a Christian, it would make sense that some of the best advice I’ve been given has origins from the bible, other Christians or Christian books. FYI: This article is full of biblical references. Apologies to those unfamiliar with the context.)
I guess this post applies to anyone, but I particularly wanted to address my single readers. Some of the time, we can get so caught up in the “hunt” for Mr. or Mrs. Right or even just our next love interest, that we forget (I know I do!) that this “season of singleness,” as some people have dubbed it, has an actual purpose besides just waiting.
When you get into a relationship, that significant other does tend to take up a significant amount of your time and energies, not to mention brain space! Then if you add family to that equation and start popping out the little adorable munchkins, consider ‘free’ time a luxury. This is all good and well. My point isn’t to bash couple-dom or family. I just want those who are single to take advantage of the free time at your disposal!
Let’s learn some skills now that will benefit us in the future when free time is a thing of the past and we have to meet the demands of a family and a spouse.
Here are some great things to learn before you have a family. Some are pretty obvious, but still worth mentioning. I’d love other ideas! Feel free to comment:) Read the rest of this entry »
I’ve only gotten two pieces of actual relationship advice from my grandma… the first one applies to ladies.
“If you run, he will follow, if you follow, he will run.”
Mind games? PRETTY MUCH! This is so old skool talk. You decide for yourself if it has any validity. Let’s just say, they don’t call it the dating “game” for no reason… Read the rest of this entry »
You’re at the library working, and the ideas are just rolling…
and then the cutest guy walks in and sits down in a location that’s straight enough in front of you so you can easily stare without turning… but far enough so that it won’t look obvious you’re admiring him like a Picasso….
At that moment, the entire flow of complete sentences and ideas you’ve managed to conjure in your head suddenly become like some jumbled Boggle game….
and it becomes apparent that for the next five minutes you will not be able to work…
or think rationally for that matter…
because a rare piece of manhood just stepped in and beckons to be admired.
So you pretend like you’re typing… but really you’re using your laptop screen as a little fort to hide behind between intense but subtle glances at this living, breathing work of art… chiseled features… square jaw… that whole I don’t even know I look this good aura… and that’s why I just threw on a pair of jeans and a T-shirt and why my hair looks slightly shaggy and unkempt.
And to make things worse/better… he pulls out a book and for over an hour… is fully engaged in it.
I know guys like success. Whether we’re talking the board room, stock options or their latest female interest. Most guys wouldn’t propose to a girl unless they’re pretty sure they’re going to get a yes… yet guys ask girls out all the time without first determining if the girl’s interested. You might have seen the funny Mad TV skit called, “Can I have Your Number?” It’s hilarious:
Are they one and the same? Does attraction guarantee chemistry? Does chemistry guarantee attraction?
Has this ever happened to you? I can look at a guy and be instantly attracted to him. Then we hang out and there are no sparks.
We don’t click.
No chemistry.
No electricity.
On the other hand, I can meet a guy and not be instantly attracted to him (almost indifferent) and then hang out for more than a couple days and find there’s fireworks.
Isn’t it crazy…
how you can be in a crowded subway and not notice how everyone is pushed up against you…
but when the guy you like even so much as reaches over for popcorn and accidently brushes his arm against yours… that’s ALL you can think about? That’s what chemistry does to a girl.
So what if it wasn’t love at first sight! Who cares about instant attraction?! It doesn’t guarantee chemistry.
80% of married couples interviewed in a survey (over 1000 people) reported they did not feel an immediate attraction to each other when they first met.
You know when you start liking someone and you can feel your heart opening up…It’s equal parts anxiety and excitement…
Before, when you didn’t like anybody, life was not a roller coaster of emotions. You were just walking on the ground. But when you start liking someone and you don’t know how they feel, and you don’t know if they know how you feel…you stop walking on the ground and you’re either on cloud 9 or in limbo, that place between heaven and hell where you’re just waiting…
Yup, one minute you’re high on the chemical rush, the next you feel sick to your stomach. It’s terrific highs and extreme lows.
Even if you haven’t said anything… You feel exposed because your heart is way more invested than the evidence you see of his and you’re sure your cards are showing. And you wonder… how have I let someone… without them even knowing… have so much control over how I’m feeling? Their words (or lack of words) take on more significance than you’re willing to admit. When you like someone you give them power to either break your spirit or lift it up… I’m just not comfortable with anyone having that kind of power over me… I’ve never been one to wear my heart on my sleeve. It’s always safely tucked away, hiding, with a fortress around it and bodyguards the size of Chris Farley…
Cuz there’s that point when you feel yourself falling…and that feeling, that feeling of falling, not knowing if there’s someone waiting to catch you… it’s scary. I fear the “Almost lover” song. Of being in that position… Boyfriends, fiances and husbands aren’t the only ones capable of breaking your heart. Crushes can crush your heart as well.
