My boyfriend is brilliant. Seriously, sometimes I just have to stare at him in awe like a silly teeny bopper fan who’s just had a chance encounter with a Jonas Brother at the grocery store.

He came up with a really cool way to figure out who chooses the movie we watch!

Now you don’t have to go back and forth–you choose, he chooses, you choose, he chooses.

Here’s what he suggested.

I choose a movie. If he doesn’t like it he chooses the next. If he does like it I choose again until we get to a movie he doesn’t like. When it’s his turn to choose a movie, if I like it, he chooses again until I don’t like his choice. So it works both ways!

Isn’t that brilliant?! This man brings focus when I have no direction, simplicity when I’m confused, structure when I’m excessive, and logic when my emotions are volatile. He is all that I am lacking. It’s no wonder I feel more complete when I am with him. And sometimes out of sorts when I am not.

Anyhow, so I chose the movie this weekend. And without-a-doubt, he will be choosing the next. Why? Because we may have just found the worst way to spend 2 hours of free time. It was painful to watch!

Do not watch Revolutionary Road!

But being the optimist that I am, and always trying to find the lesson to be learned, here’s what this movie taught me:

Love is the main event. Even if your dreams are not fulfilled, it doesn’t mean you’ve missed out on life. Love is the main course. This couple focused too much on their dreams and not enough on nurturing each other. {sigh}

It’s not worth it to keep up with the Jones. When you give into that kind of life, you give up freedom. It’s better to have experiences than things. It’s better to have freedom to fulfill your dreams than a huge house and material things to tie you down.

Why? I think because people are more satisfied by doing (active existence) and less by having. (passive existence)