Thanks for sharing this on fb Elisa Ding!
“To the man whose hand or arm she is holding, she is not “average.” She is the whole world to him. She is the most valuable thing in his life. Why is this basic woman so valuable to the man whose hand or arm she is holding?
First, it is human contact.
Conversation is also important.
He can tell her of something good he has done, or something good that has happened to him, without fearing that she will think he is bragging.
He can tell her of something bad that has happened without fearing that she will think he is complaining.
He can tell her of the most trivial thing without fearing that she will think he is bothering her.
Third, the woman serves the man’s need to be needed. Other people—employers, students, readers—may say that they need you. But it isn’t true. In all such relationships you are replaceable at some price. But to this woman you are not replaceable at any price. And that gives you the self-esteem to go out and meet the world every day.
So this “ordinary” woman has this great value to this man. He probably never says how much he values her, to himself or to her. But he acts as if he knows it.”