Is Love a Choice or a Feeling?
I think it’s both.
It’s a feeling I can’t control because the heart wants what it wants, and a part of me can’t control who I’m attracted to, drawn to, or have chemistry.
But a part of it is a choice– a commitment to hold on to this person I have chemistry with— forever, with the realistic view that this person is not going to always be as perfect as they seem right now.
It’s living with the realistic view that it’s not always going to be easy, and I’m not always going to want this person as strongly and as passionately as I do now–
But when those times come, I’ve backed up my feelings with a decision to stay through it all.
Why?
Because the feelings are volatile.
They come and go.
It’s my commitment that is forever.
It shouldn’t change like the feelings.
So the answer to the question, is love a choice or a feeling?
Well, it’s both.
Basically this kind of love does not waver and is not impacted by the lover’s actions.
It’s saying what this song is saying, that you’ll NEVER take your love away. That’s real love. The ultimate love we’re all seeking.
I WILL NOT TAKE MY LOVE AWAY
Matt Wertz
I will not take my love away
When praises cease and seasons change
while the whole world turns the other way
I will not take my love away
I will not leave you all alone
When striving leads you far from home
And there’s no yield for what you’ve sown
I will not leave you all alone
I will give you what you need
In plenty or in poverty
Forever, always, look to me
And I will give you what you need
I will not take my love away
April 10th, 2009 at 8:19 am
Women under 50 are bonded after having sex. Women over 50, ‘Choose’ to stay with a man.
April 11th, 2009 at 10:46 am
what do you mean hunter?
May 7th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
Do you by chance have the chords written down. I want to pick up guitar, and I probably am not asking the exact question, but I did sing in a travelling choir, and I love music. I especially love beautiful heartfelt music. Thank you for sharing this, and whatever else you can.
May 8th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
hey Meagan, I’m looking for the guitar chords too! I think you can find them on guitarchords.com? try that out. I love music too, especially music with brave lyrics like this song.
June 5th, 2009 at 9:15 am
it may start as feeling but to make it last it will definitely be a decision, you to think it through and be convince that your feeling have not deceived you.
February 2nd, 2010 at 11:44 am
Cool, there is actually some great ideas on here some of my subscribers may find this relevant, I will send them a link, many thanks.
February 20th, 2010 at 4:56 pm
I don’t know about you guys but I find this kind of depressing to the fact that our feeling of love slowly vanishes.
February 23rd, 2010 at 7:45 pm
But Dave, I think the feelings/excitement of the butterflies may disappear, but the love deepens– the deep abiding commitment and dedication to another person’s happiness and well-being, the feeling of being more and more one with another human being, the beauty of being fully known and fully loved regardless of our faults, these things don’t vanish, but grow with time. And in that security, as time and age take away our youth, we will be comforted by the knowledge that we are never alone– that we have someone by our side to love us unconditionally. That is what is beautiful.
March 12th, 2010 at 1:04 pm
I agree with MidoriLei but I also want to say that the feeling dont vanish. The excitment and the butterflies DO come back. There just not there every single day. My parents are the PERFECT example of that. My mom still get goofy and giddy over my dad at time when she talks about him or is just standing there next to him listening to him talk. And my dad is the same way…though in more of the “guyish” way. lol he still has those days when he looks at her and is just completely wowed and blown away by her like when they first met. The key is you have to WORK at it. “dating” or “romancing” a person doesnt stop when you hit the altar. When you were dating thats when your just starting to dip your feet into wooing a person. After your married thats when it really starts and you have to work harder at it. The giddy goofy feeling wont be there every day. But as you both continually work to make eahother the most imporatnt person (aside from Christ) in your life, then the feeling will still be there.
March 12th, 2010 at 5:59 pm
Good point you made there. During the past few weeks I’ve been digging deep into the definition of love, like how it works and what the real meaning behind it. After reading and listening to numerous of people have to say about it, I’ve come to realization that many people put intimacy over commitment. Many people end up in a physical relationship, in other words intimacy, leading them to believe that they’re in “Love” when reality is they’re not since it’s based on feelings rather than commitment. Putting commitment first and then feelings is real love. Like what you’ve said, “dating” or “romancing” a person doesnt stop when you hit the altar” and “But as you both continually work to make eahother the most imporatnt person (aside from Christ) in your life, then the feeling will still be there.”