If I Could Give You Only One Piece of Dating Advice…
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It would be to get this in your head:
Men and Women are different.
Take Kate Beckinsale’s interview comment from the July 2006 edition of Redbook:
Women feel sexy from feeling appreciated and attractive and desired. Men feel sexy from…having sex. [laughs] If you can strike that balance where the man is having sex a whole bunch and the woman is feeling attractive and desired enough to have sex a whole bunch, then you’ve figured out the secret to a marriage that is totally alive.
Case in point. Men and Women are different.
If you read any dating advice or any books, if this truth isn’t evident in what you’re reading, put the book down. ASAP. Most of the conflict, communication problems and misunderstandings stem from this basic fact that we’re just wired differently. Embrace it. Accept it. Learn about the opposite sex. Then you’ll stop saying things like, ” Isn’t it obvious what I need from him? Do I have to spell it out?” or “Why does she always assume something’s wrong when I stay quiet?”
And here are my favorite books for understanding the opposite sex: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and Mars and Venus on a Date.
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July 10th, 2008 at 11:13 pm
Haha! Great quote! I like it because it’s succinct and completely true at the same time.
November 27th, 2008 at 12:26 am
Girls want security and status.
Guys want sex and someone their friends will like.
November 28th, 2008 at 8:32 am
I’d like to add:
Women want love and loyalty
Men want sex and success
December 3rd, 2008 at 10:34 pm
That’s a pretty broad generalization, don’t you think? I’ve known women who only seem to be interested in sex and success. And how many guys are there that would say they don’t want love and loyalty?
Even for a guy, there’s no better feeling in the world than the feel desired. It’s not only flattering, but also a huge turn on (when welcome, anyway). My opinion is that “I want you to want me” is not a gender exclusive sentiment.
December 4th, 2008 at 11:29 am
Good point, Nathan. I guess I should say that although all those things are not gender exclusive, I think that women want love and loyalty more than sex and success and men want sex and success more than love and loyalty. it’s not so much what one sex wants and the other doesn’t but what we prioritize more? hmmmm