For Girls in a Relationship

I Hate Planning for a Wedding

Am I the ONLY girl out there who hasn’t been planning this event since I was six and in pigtails?


I’m upset at how businesses and venues and vendors PREY on brides-to-be.

At the mere mention of “wedding” people bump up their prices.

All of a sudden the “event” is no longer just and “event.”

It’s a ‘freakin wedding and now I can’t say “I do” for less than 2 grand at most locales.


I’m venting.

So that is the reason for my absence here.

Because I never knew how stressful and expensive it is to plan a wedding

That’s all I’ve been doing.


I lied.

I wrote a bunch of freelance dating articles too. You can check some of them out here:

4 Common Gripes About Asking Women Out and How to Get Over Them

What Women Want: A Breakdown By Decade

What a Man Can Apply to Relationships Based on His Relationship with His Dog

And now what becomes of bitter bride-to-be?

I’m going to find a park… and grab a portable generator… and have my wedding under the stars:)

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  1. Mike

    My roommate is going through the same thing. $2.50 per napkin? .60 cents per fork?

    Makes you think Vegas isn’t such a bad idea.

  2. Kathleen

    How much do you think ANY party costs to have? Venue rental cost cover the site, the utilities and staff. If you want to cut down costs don’t have as many people or have something informal.

    And as far as ‘wedding vendors’ preying on brides-to-be, what a joke! You would NEVER go to a restaurant and try to haggle prices but most brides want the sun moon and stars but don’t want to pay for it.

    Think about what you are spending money on because YOU ARE THE ONE TO DECIDE. You can get married any way you want and at any cost, don’t hate on those who make their living and have a business that supports weddings and events.

  3. MidoriLei

    I know what you mean Mike. Why didn’t we jump on the courthouse wedding idea?!

  4. MidoriLei

    Kathleen, you do have a point. I just never realized how much weddings cost! It just feels like things cost more than a regular party. I’ve even gotten the advice not to mention it’s a “wedding” to cut down on costs. Still, my guest list is about 30 people and things are still expensive. boo.

  5. Dave

    Drive down the coast and find a secluded beach, I hear they’re free if you don’t tell anyone you’ll be there. Romantic wedding overlooking the ocean (but maybe not right on the sand) should be more memorable than tying the knot next to the buffet at Phil’s Crab Shack. That also leaves $2K for booze! W00t!

  6. Dennis Miedema

    As a dating coach who’s soon to marry as well, I’d like to add my own two cents here…

    Any date, party, and even wedding gets as expensive as you want it to be… but it doesn’t HAVE to be expensive.

    A wedding doesn’t have to cost you $10k just like taking a girl out to dinner doesn’t have to cost a guy 500 bucks because he took her to the fanciest restaurant in town… is it the best option because it was the most expensive option?

    Although we have a tendency to relate price to quality where more expensive is better quality, it’s BS when it comes to marriage.

    You simply have to ask yourself a question: what theme do I want?

    – Do you want to go asian, latin, disco, military… or traditional? And how traditional: normal wedding or in church? You’ll find that doing a theme is often more fun, more personal, and costs less.

    – Do you want a small wedding or a big one? Most people want everyone they know and like to be there, but trust me: lots of my students are married now and they liked a private wedding so much better… it’s real romanic, intimate…

    My final tip: if you get all the materials for the wedding yourself, truly organize it yourself instead of hiring help? Do a theme, do it as private as possible?

    You can have a wedding for a couple hundred bucks at most without looking cheap. It just takes more preparation effort on your part 🙂

    To More Dating Success,

    Dennis Miedema
    Win With Women

  7. christa

    I hate planning this wedding this sucks I never wanted to get married and I found a wonderful guy i want to spend forever with but my parents want a wedding and want me to plan and worse pay for it. all i want is to go to the court house and get it done with. I dont not see the big deal of a big wedding.

  8. MidoriLei

    I hear you christa!

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