“Why haven’t you texted me back? Why haven’t you returned my calls? I thought we were friends!”
This will be really hard to do, but while you are broken up, you don’t want to communicate at all. A woman has to realize that your friendship is ONLY available if you’re in a relationship with her.
If she complains, you tell her very plainly.
“No, we were not friends. We were in a relationship, and you broke up with me. This is what broken up people do. They don’t communicate. I made it very clear from the beginning that I’m interested in a relationship with you. You broke my heart. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with me, I’m not going to be a martyr and try to be your friend. I can never see you as just a friend.”
Are you saying that if I’m not in a relationship with, you won’t even be my friend?
That’s exactly what I’m saying. You don’t understand what it’s like for a guy. It’s torture to “just be friends” with a woman you’re in love with. I’m not going to put myself through that.
Fine. I thought you cared about me, but I guess I was wrong. You only care about one thing.
No, I care about you in every way. Making broad, general accusations- you’re better than that. You know I’m in love with you and I’m not just after one thing. You can’t break up with me and think that things are going to be the same. Because it’s not the same. You’re either with me and you get all of me, or you’re not with me and you get nothing. And you’ve made your choice. But I’ve made my point. I’ve gotta go.
With a woman you make it clear that you’re a guy’s guy.
Last I checked, men don’t think it’s FUN to sit around talking about their feelings.
So when you give emotional support to a woman, it takes effort.
By not communicating with her, you are making it clear that if you’re not in a relationship, you are NOT AVAILABLE AS AN EMOTIONAL SUPPORT.
That only comes as a benefit of being in a relationship with you.
Why You Need to Have Friends of the Same Gender
It’s not that you don’t have any female friends, but you SHOULD have more male friends than female friends.
Because you have common interests and because sex and attraction don’t get in the way.
When a man has male friends, it has a way of validating his masculinity.
She’s thinking, Oh, he’s respected amongst his male peers. That’s good.
A man’s man is the most attractive kind of man.
He hangs with his buds.
He knows his way around tools.
She’s fascinated by his love of sports or cars or motorcycles or hunting or computers or fishing.
She’s fascinated by what makes you different from her.
Your masculinity fuels her femininity, her femininity fuels your masculinity and that’s when the magic happens.
If the majority of your friends are female, you’re not surrounding yourself with enough testosterone to bring out your masculinity.
Hanging out with mostly females is NOT going to help you become more masculine.
It’s going to help you understand women better BUT the downside is that you’ll probably be gaining more feminine traits.
Guys need to be surrounded by guys.
You become more like the friends you keep.
So find great examples of alpha men.
Men who are ambitious, loyal, and who have masculine hobbies.
Those kinds of men are only going to help you become more masculine.
A man’s man dates women and he befriends other men. For the most part.
If the majority of your friendships are women, when you’re with a woman, she’ll wonder why you don’t have male friends.
A woman will start to wonder, Why doesn’t this guy have any close male friends? What’s WRONG with him? Is he a panty waste?
You’d probably feel the same way if you dated a girl who only had male friends.
You’d wonder, Why doesn’t she have any female friends? Do women not like her? Is she a bitch? Is she too competitive with other women?
What if you don’t really have any close friends? You just see your coworkers and your family and that’s about it? That’s another topic for another day.
Here’s male friendship in action:
Have a great weekend everyone!