How to get a girl to like you

It’s a common question, that never really goes away.  It doesn’t matter how young or old you are.  You will meet that one girl, that perfect woman and ask that timeless question: How to get a girl to like you?

Let me break it down for you men.  Here are 10 simple things that will get that girl, that perfect woman to like you, to notice you and to want YOU.

How to get a girl to like you?

1. Be confident

Not cocky, but confident.  Walk tall and proud.  Know your worth, but don’t brag about it.

If you are looking for tips on how to improve your confidence, I check out this article.

2. Be kind

Think of others, serve, look for ways to help, give the benefit of the doubt.  All of these repeated small things, moment by moment and day by day develop your character.  Repeated actions become who we are.  Look for ways to be kind and loving to others.  There is nothing sexier than a man who is a real man.  A kind man.

3. Respect yourself

Don’t take too much pushing from others.  Know how to set your boundaries and not let people cross them.  Find ways to do this while maintaining your kindness and integrity.  No one wants a pushover, but no one wants a selfish bully.

Be a man of your word. If you say something hold to it. Be honest. Have integrity.  Respect yourself.

4. Respect her

Find simple ways to show you respect her.  Words are just words, but actions speak volumes.  If you are going to be late, let her know.  If you have to cancel or change plans, give her advanced notice. Return texts and phone calls. Listen to her and take what she says as valuable.  Don’t push when she sets a boundary, but honor it.

5. Take interest in her life

Most women process things verbally, we talk to internalize our day and examine all angles of the varying situations of life.  Listen when a woman talks.  Ask questions, engage.  Don’t grunt answers.  Or change subjects while she is still midstream in her story.

Try things that she likes. Picnics, pottery, pizza or pit bulls, try one of her hobbies with her.  It doesn’t have to be all the time.  But when do it, be sincere and try to enjoy it.  She will notice, and adore you for it.

6. Have your own life

Dating is fun. Coupledome is great.  Know what’s even better?  People that share their lives, not become each other’s life.  Make time for your hobbies, your friends and your self-growth. Be a man with a life that you fit her into, but don’t make her your life.

People in healthy relationships maintain their individual identity.  They choose to share their lives and time.

It is more attractive when a man is established and has things going on outside of me.  I feel special when he makes time for me, and I enjoy our time more because I know he prioritized me to in his schedule.

7. Make time for her

While you maintain your own life, it is important to make time for whoever you are dating.  Everyone has a busy schedule, but if you plan ahead and make sure you schedule her into your time, she will feel like a queen.

If you usually have a  lot of communication, but know you are about to be bombarded at work, a thoughtful text like:

Hey, I’m going to have a crazy day today, so I won’t be in touch.  But I want you to know I’m thinking about you.  I’ll text you tonight.

will put her on Cloud 9 all day, even though she won’t hear from you until later that night.

8. Be a gentleman

I personally love a man who opens a door for me.  If I am dating someone who does not, I find a way to tell him how much I love it when he does.  I swoon if a man carries a heavy bag for me. When he offers to take it with out me having to ask for help, my insides melt a little.

Here are some other things that men have done for me that made me feel treasured and deepened my interest in them:

• Gave me a genuine complimented (Remember that it doesn’t have to over looks: accomplishments, abilities, character traits, etc.)
• Offered to come to my area of town for a date instead of meeting halfway (or me driving to them)
• Found a place that they knew I would like (usually revolving around food)
• Offered to pay for my gas if we were in my car
• Offered to drive, and had an immaculately clean car (I hate driving and respect men who keep things clean)
• Brought my favorite candy (pretzel m&ms) and drink (diet coke) on a date
• Brought me flowers (No, it is not cliche.  It is wonderful!)
• Paid for our dates
• A long term boyfriend mowed and edged my yard every weekend

These just name a few things, but the list goes on and on.  It is not hard to be a gentleman, just think of a female relative you treasure and how you would want their signification other to treat them.  Then do that, and maybe even step it up a level if you find that special someone.

9. Take care of yourself

Dress in clothes that fit you.  Keep yourself looking sharp, whatever your style may be.  If you need white strips on your teeth, use them ( I like these).  Get enough sleep.  Eat the diet that you know is good for your body (rememeber your water, vegetables and fruit!!!).

And exercise.  Not to become a gym-fanatic or paleo, gluten free, protein gulping health-nut.  But exercise so you feel good.  When I lift weights, I feel stronger.  I feel more capable, and I have less pain in my body.  When I am walking or jogging regularly I walk a little taller and feel better inside.  If you aren’t working out yet, start right now (well, finish the next paragraph) then go on a walk. Start small, but don’t miss a day.  Keep the habit and then add things slowly.  GO!  I’ve never exercised and regretted it, but I have skipped work outs and regretted it tremendously. The hardest part is putting your shoes on.

If you take care of yourself, you feel better about yourself.  And are more attractive to women.

10. Be you

Don’t change who you are.  If the girl that caught your eye and has you reading this article doesn’t turn out to be the one for you, that’s ok.  The one that God has for you is out there, waiting for your exact smile, your wit, your charm and your heart.