How to Avoid Arguments
Any time you’re in a relationship and you’re wondering what course of action you should take regarding an issue you’re having with your significant other, ask yourself this question:
What is the most loving thing for me to do? How can I demonstrate selflessness and love?
To avoid arguments with your significant other, remind yourself to do this:
Speak the truth- in love. (Ephesians 4:15) Agree to disagree.
and remind yourself of this reality:
I love her/him more than I love being right. This isn’t a competition to prove who’s right.
I just don’t understand arguing.
Some people love to argue.
I don’t get that! To each his own?
Some people say that if you don’t argue with your significant other, you’re not being real and authentic.
I beg to differ.
I have four best friends, two of them are my brothers.
My youngest brother and I don’t ever argue, yet we couldn’t be more different or opinionated.
We just accept those differences in each other and have fun together.
Everytime I’ve been in a relationship, we hardly (if ever) argue.
What’s the point?
There are so many other things to do-laugh, make out, have fun, flirt, talk…
I don’t care about being right.
I want to be heard.
I want my opinons to be respected, but
I don’t need someone else to validate my beliefs.
So, I agree to disagree.
I let people be and do what they want.
I figure, I don’t have to ever agree with them or join them.
January 22nd, 2009 at 10:22 am
Hmmmm…. lol Wait until you date someone really REALLY frustrating. And you get really stressed out. And your hormones are on the fritz. And all you’ve eaten all day is some lukewarm, runny, leftover pasta. And your honey tells you your viewpoint is lunatic.
But you still make a very good point.
January 22nd, 2009 at 4:46 pm
Men really say things as insensitive as that? Calling their beloved’s viewpoint “lunatic?” lol
I’ll let you know when your scenario plays out in my life. Monthy hormones screw up all these nice little theories:)
January 23rd, 2009 at 12:46 pm
Sorry, I guess I was a little extra cynical, having just had a big fight based on a simple misunderstanding complicated by a failure to see the other point of view and exacerbated by bringing every other grievance to the table….
Everything is better now, though!
I think the important thing is the ability to work things out when there is a conflict.
January 23rd, 2009 at 3:19 pm
I’m glad everything’s better now, Lydia! You’re right, it’s not always about “avoiding” an argument…. it’s important to work things out when there is a conflict. Good point!