A reader likes a girl who comes into his shop regularly. Maybe you can relate? What do you do?

His comment:

Hi there,

I work in a small shop and every so often this girl walks in. She’s stunning and has an alternative style that I love.

She seems a bit shy, but I always say “Hi, you alright?” or something to that degree. She always replies “Yeah, thanks.” but never takes it from there.

What can I do?

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My response?

First, are you allowed to ask out customers? If you are and she comes in, find a way to take your break when she comes. Tell her, “You look very beautiful today.” Then lean forward and whisper something like, “You can totally say no. I hope this isn’t too forward. I’m taking my break in a minute. Do you mind waiting for a sec? I want to ask you something.”

When you sit down with her, ask her out on a date! Tell her something like, “Can I take you out to dinner sometime? I’ve never asked out a customer but I see you come in here day in and day out and it’s really something I look forward to. You coming here always makes my day… and I just HAD to ask you out.”

“Hi, You alright?” doesn’t give a girl much to work with, that’s why she’s not taking it a step further! You gotta actually ask her out.

Not feeling so bold?

At the very least, tell her, “btw, I love your style.” You can always get a woman’s mind wondering if you are interested by throwing out some sincere compliments. Then smile, hand her her receipt and write something on it… like… “I don’t want to make you feel uncomfortable, but can I call you sometime?” When she looks up from reading it wherever she is in the room, meet her eyes, smile and make the facial expression that says, “So what do you think?”

Or if she leaves before she can read it, the next time she comes in ask her when she walks up to the counter, “So what do you think?” and smile the kind of confident smile that says, I know you will say yes. You won’t regret it. and if you don’t I’ll be okay, you’re not the only woman in the world

(and yes, a smile can say all those things!)

I don’t ever recommend a guy give out his number. Why? Because it makes the girl do the work of calling, like the guy is putting the responsibility of pursuing on the woman. In my book the guy needs to ask for the number, and the guy needs to call the girl, and then the guy needs to ask her out on a date.

alot of work and responsibility?

YES.

But a good woman is ALWAYS worth it:)

Good luck!