Guys are pretty creative about picking up girls and trying to get a number. I applaud ya’ll! (there goes my Texas slang)

College boys are adorable. I work at a community college and was approached by a student on my way from getting my paycheck last week. Here’s how it went:

Guy- Hey, my friend wants to know if he can have your number.

Me- Where is he? Is that him? (pointing to random guys in front of us)

Guy- No, it’s actually me. {smile} {blush}

Me- What’s your name?

Guy- Alex.

Me- And how old are you, Alex?

Alex- 20.

Me- Sweetie, I’m 6 years older than you. {frown} You could be in one of my classes next semester!

Alex- That would be cool!

Me- For you! {smile}

Alex- Is that your way of telling me I’m not getting your number?

Me- {smile} Alex, I have to go back to work, but was nice to meet you. Have a good day.

Alex- Nice to meet you too–?

Me- Midori. {smile}

Alex- Midori. (We wave)

Alex made me smile that day. I know a lot of men are passive, but for those who make these courageous attempts, I applaud you. This is a shout out to all the men who put themselves out there to risk rejection time and time again. You guys are my heroes. Think of every “no” as a badge of honor and press on.

Here are some tips:

If you can, throw out a feeler. Read about it here.

The best pick up line is simple:

Hi, my name is _________. What’s your name?

Then you just proceed to find out something about her.

If you’re at a wedding, ask her how she knows the bride or groom.

At a party, as her how she heard about the party or how she knows the host/hostess.

At a convention, ask her how she’s enjoying the meetings. Did she like the last speaker?

At the dog park, ask her about her dog. What kind of dog is it? How long has she had it? What’s it’s name?

At the bookstore, ask her what she’s reading or what she’s looking for.

Just about anywhere, you can ask a girl,

“Do you come here regularly? I’ve never seen you here before.”

If her answer is yes, then you can flirt back with,

“Really? ‘Cuz I would have definitely noticed(or remembered) you if I saw you here before.”

That’ll make her smile for sure.

If you notice someone in a crowded party, have no connection to that person, and know you will probably never see her again, do this:

Go up to her and say,

(to get her away from the crowd)

(this works because humility is endearing, (even more so if you’re a really good-looking man because good-looking men tend to also be arrogant) and it plays on a woman’s vanity! We always love to hear we’re the best this, the most that. We like to know we stand out.)

(you have to have it already written down on a piece of paper so you can have a reason to gently grab her hand and place it in her palm while you’re holding her hand. Be bold! It’ll catch her off guard. You must smile the whole time. (no teeth) It shows you’re confident.)

Leave asap. If she asks, “Why should I call you?” the best response is:

(shows confidence, shows you’re different, and gets her curious! Okay, and maybe we’ve watched too many romantic comedies! But it’ll work!)

or:

“Because I’ll make you smile.”

(Girls want guys who show that they will make that effort in trying to make them happy!)

Note: NEVER, NEVER exchange phone numbers. Only one party should ever receive a number. If both numbers are exchanged, most likely, both parties will anticipate the other party will make the initial contact. What you’ll get is two people waiting by the phone. When both parties have the power to call, they’ll want the other person to call. If only one party receives a number, it is clear the ball is in their court.

Think of approaching women as a game so the pressure isn’t so great. I’m not promoting mind games; I’m just saying don’t be so serious about it. You’ll psyche yourself out. Besides, she’s just a girl. If it doesn’t work out with her, you have over 3 billion other women to choose from. Plus, if you treat it as a game, you’ll come off more relaxed and laid-back. I haven’t met a girl who doesn’t like relaxed and laid-back. Good luck!