I have a friend who goes on dates and within 5 minutes knows whether the guy is worth hanging out with the rest of the evening. She has instant recognition of chemistry and attraction. Usually I do to. I usually think immediately, “Hmmmm, possibility,” or “Nope, nothing there.”

But the other day, I was surprisingly stumped. It’s cause he wasn’t my type physically except for the height. He’s not what I’m looking for as far as personality (I like shy guys) but he was very attentive and involved in the group’s dynamics while my girl friend’s shy guy didn’t say a word in the corner. It made me question my shy guy attraction. And he’s just fun to be around period. Plus, big plus, he can cook. That’s a whole other topic.

I know how to act when I don’t like a guy. I know how to behave when I do like a guy, but what if I’m indifferent? How do you not look interested so you don’t lead him on while still keeping the doors opened in case something develops in the future?