This is a two part post from a reader’s question. (Great questions by the way! You know who you are:)

Reader Question:

…Another thing is what are some things I can do or say to prove to
her I love her. I want to prove myself to her.

The Girl’s Answer:

How do you prove you love someone through words and actions? You live unselfishly. You put her needs above your own. You sacrifice; you compromise. You make sure when you’re with her that you give her FOCUSED ATTENTION. Like you’re all there when you’re there. Your mind is not somewhere else. There is no other place you want to be. You are generous with compliments and appreciation. You care more about being kind than being right. You let her be free to be herself and live her life. You don’t try to change her. When she talks, you REALLY listen. Women sometimes, well, we just need to feel like we’re heard.

Basically treat her everyday like it’s the last day you’ll have her in your life, because really we only have THE PRESENT to love the people we are with. We never know when a person’s time is up. Love her with no inhibitions. Love her with wreckless abandon. Don’t leave anything unsaid. Try to connect with her with everything you have: body, soul, mind, spirit, emotions. Have the kind of love where you don’t know where you end and she begins, she begins and you end. Share your deepest self with her, the one that is afraid to come out. Share your dreams, your fears, your insecurities, your goals. Let her into a place where you don’t let anyone else in, where you yourself are afraid to go sometimes for fear of what you’ll find. You’ll give love, and you’ll get intimacy.

Notice how all of this “showing love” is free?! Isn’t it great! Women are a complicated bunch, but we have the propensity to love deeply and bring out parts of a man that you never thought were there. Meet us there.

And I want to add: Listen to her stories. Make her feel by your words and actions that she is it for you. There is no one else now or ever.

Here is a great definition of love: (1 Cor 13- The Message)

Love:

• never gives up.
• cares more for others than for self.
• doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
• doesn’t strut,
• doesn’t have a swelled head,
• doesn’t force itself on others,
• isn’t always “me first,”
• doesn’t fly off the handle,
• doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
• doesn’t revel when others grovel,
• takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
• puts up with anything,
• trusts God always,
• always looks for the best,
• never looks back,
• but keeps going to the end.
• never dies.

Love, real love, is forever.