He’s Just Not That Into You Reminded Me of This Fact
February 24th, 2009 by MidoriLei
Just saw that movie today with friends. Great movie. It reminded me of what I read in one of Nita Tucker’s books. Something about how the dream man of every woman has one common denominator:
He’s crazy about her.
All the women reading this, remember that. You deserve to be with your dream man.
If he’s just not that into you…
Regardless of how great he is…
Regardless of how much you like him…
He’s not your dream man if he’s not crazy about you.
Move on.
Dare to settle for more.
February 25th, 2009 at 12:34 pm
WOW you are really on a roll lately with the blogs. Guess Seattle boy stimulates your creativity?
Oh, and I saw He’s Just Not That Into You and thought it was great! So many points of view to think about there. Funny, shocking, sad, sweet.
February 25th, 2009 at 6:03 pm
Mr. Sleepless in Seattle (haha, the “boy” terminology is kinda juvenile he says? lol) is Mr. Muse right now! lol I have fodder for posts all the time. I can’t keep up! I’m trying to post every weekday.
Wasn’t that movie star-studded and just an honest portrayal of love from many angles? I love movies with more than just one star.
February 26th, 2009 at 4:35 am
Hi i’ve been following ur blog for a couple of months now and 1. i lurve it! 2. I felt really compelled to post a comment on this.
I completely agree with ur summation of HJNTIY but I felt the movie also undermined the book when Gigi realised that she’s the ‘exception’. I’d just hate to think there are women out there who settled on that point alone at the end. Also (and maybe it’s my own cynical view here), it seemed like those who ended up single were unhappy single, which would also contradict the real msg of the book. I guess I felt that the movie was pressured to have a hollywood/crowd pleaser ending. Just my 2 cent
February 26th, 2009 at 8:49 am
Troller, thank you for reading my blog and taking the time to comment. You make a really good point about the movie. I didn’t even think about that. I hope women don’t leave the theater going, “Oh, none of that really applies to me because I’m probably the ‘exception’ too!” YUCK.
Yeah, those who ended up single may have been unhappy single– but I think the fact that they made these points about those who were single were spot on:
1. Cheating is wrong. People always get hurt.
2. Forcing someone to marry you will bite you in the butt later on.
3. You shouldn’t stay with someone who cheats and lies to you.
4. It’s better to be alone and available to meet someone than to be attached and not with someone you really want to be with.
5. It’s better to be alone and available to meet someone than to be attached and with someone who doesn’t really want to be with you.
But I agree— they made a hollywood/crowd pleaser ending that contradicted the point of the book!
February 27th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
I think the main point of the movie was (or maybe just should have been, but it was the take-home point for me) was that there is no one rule that applies in every situation. You may try to categorize everyone and everything, but the truth of it is that people are people and not all the same. Doing everything right won’t guarantee you love, just as doing everything wrong doesn’t mean someone won’t love you anyway. I’m often tempted to view the world in absolute terms, but in reality I think that life is also somewhat subjective. It drives me crazy.
February 27th, 2009 at 11:15 pm
You’re right Lydia, I think that is true–that not one rule applies to every situation. But it’s funny cuz the book didn’t have the same message as the movie! lol
I’m learning just how out of my control matters of the heart are. So many things are random. It drives me nuts too—- because I want to be able to predict what xyz action will result in. But I realize I can’t predict anything… because every person reacts differently. It’s all so very very subjective, like you said!
February 28th, 2009 at 2:58 pm
Loved HJNTIY. I saw it opening weekend, but no one else wanted to so I ended up having to go on my own. To me there were a few main points that were really good but unfortunately got underscored by the commercial needs of the script.
Don’t settle for someone who isn’t as interested in you as you are with him. The old concept of not being “unequally yoked” applies to this kind of scenario just as much, an unbalanced relationship can’t stand for long. It’s not healthy to invest yourself so deeply when it isn’t returned.
The other thing the movie brought out was that people are just as much afraid of feeling like “the bad guy” as they are of being rejected. That’s why sometimes a guy who isn’t necessarily into you will still ask for your number and imply that he will be in touch, not necessarily because he is a jerk.
But there was one big thing that the movie failed to bring out and I thought was sorely lacking… It’s not just guys who do this! The ladies do it just as much.
March 18th, 2009 at 10:00 am
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