(spoilers below! Watch video first)

Don’t fight with words. Seduction solves conflicts much better. Works every time! This wife was smart.

She could have been the nag: “Why don’t you pay attention to me? Pay attention to me! Pay attention to me!”

She could have been the emasculating woman: “You’re a terrible husband! Why don’t you put your phone down and stop neglecting me!”

She could have been the desolate woman: shut down, “looking like a whipped puppy, rushing to please him in any way, not out of love but out of fear and some weird idea of submission.” (from Captivating)

Or she could have pushed it under the rug and gotten back at him by neglecting him too.

But what did she do instead? The wise woman used her womanly prowess and seduced the man. She wants things to change… but she ends it with a sincere tear and an “I love you,” (and a little leg)

It reminds me of what I read in the book Captivating from the chapter “Arousing Adam:” (I bolded what I think are the most crucial parts)

HOW DOES A WOMAN LOVE A MAN?

Let’s start with sex.

Not because “it’s all men think about” (as many a cynical woman has said), but because it presents the relationship between femininity and masculinity in such a clear way. It is a beautiful and rich metaphor, a very passionate and heightened picture for a much broader reality.

The question before us is, “How does a woman best love a man?” The answer is simple: seduce him.

Think of a woman on her wedding night. She dims the lights and puts on a silky something that accentuates the loveliness of her body, reveals the beauty of her naked form, yet also leaves something yet to be unveiled. She puts on perfume and lipstick and checks her hair.

She allures her man. She hopes to arouse him and invite him to come to her and enter her. In an act of stunning vulnerability she takes life’s greatest risk- offering her unveiled beauty to him, opening herself up to him in every way.
And as for her man, if he does not rise to the occasion, nothing will happen. There will be no consumation of love, no life conceived unless the man is able to offer his strength to his woman.

That is how we make love.

Femininity is what arouses his masculinity. His strength is what makes a woman yearn to be beautiful.

It’s that simple, that beautiful, that mysterious, and incredibly profound.

The beauty of a woman is what arouses the strength of a man. He wants to play the man when a woman acts like that. You can’t hold him back. He wants to come through. And this desire is crucial. Don’t you want him to want to come through for you? Not to be forced to, not because he “ought to.” But because he wants to come through.

Well, then, arouse his desire. In any facet of life.

Can you imagine what it would be like if a young bride took the approach toward her new husband so many women take in other matters?

Imagine her getting out her Daytimer and asking, “When would you like to have sex this week?” (The Efficient Woman)

Or commenting to her new husband, “I suppose you’ll want to have sex tonight. Let’s get it over with early- I have a lot to do in the morning. ” (The Busy Woman)

Or the more direct challenge, “That was a pretty poor performance last night. You wanna try it again?” (The Demanding Woman)

You get the idea. Your message to your man is either, “Sugar, you have what it takes,” or, “I don’t think you are much of a man. Want to prove me wrong?”

The same is true for a woman. Your heart responds very differently to the pressure to be beautiful, “You’re going out in that?” as opposed to the assurance that you are beautiful, “Sweetheart, you look so lovely tonight.”

A woman wants to feel beautiful. The strength of a good man makes her feel so. A man wants to feel strong. The beauty of a good woman makes him feel so. This principle plays out far beyond sex and marriage.

…An arousing woman is one who calls forth the best in a man by offering who she is as a woman- someone who offers her beauty, her true heart,

… However it is expressed in the uniqueness of your own femininity, arousing Adam comes down to this:

Need him. And believe in him.

That is what a man needs to hear from his woman more than anything else. I need you. I need your strength. I believe in you. You have what it takes.