(all pictures from leloveimage)
This reader likes a guy at the gym…
Here’s what she says:
I don’t know what to do, what if he is really shy and i start talking to him and he takes me for a flirt. But i guess that would be the only way to find out and for me to stop dreaming, i think the next time I see him i will look for a way to excersice on a treadmill right next to him and start a conversation i just can’t continue to be so close to him and not know.
Just to make things clear, you are reading an advice column from a very traditional woman. I would NEVER advise a woman to make the first move with a guy (ask him out).
I think the most important thing is for you to wait, be patient, and smile a lot. A smile is enough motivation for a man to approach you if he is truly interested.
Don’t rush the stage of longing. By doing nothing but smiling, you are allowing a man to man up and be brave enough to pursue you. You give him a chance to be courageous.
I wouldn’t even go out of your way to run right next to him and strike a conversation. A guy can read right through that. He will either think, hmmm she’s interested and confident, or hmmm she’s really forward and desperate. It can go either way, but do you really want to risk that interpretation?
You can read this article about shy guys:
or this article about why you shouldn’t pursue a man.
Let the man take the risks! You are worth all the trouble:)
You might be thinking, but what if I don’t make a move and he never does anything? Think of it like you just dodged a bullet. Do you really want to go after a guy who’s just not that into you enough to make an effort? You will be chasing the man forever and always wondering if you were just a convenient catch.
Bet you can relate to these pictures… all the things you think… all the things I’m asking you to keep to yourself until he makes an effort. You are worth that effort.