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Here are the 5 reasons in brief:

• You don’t have ambition
• You don’t follow through
• You give her too much or too little attention
• You’re just not her type
• You don’t see her as an equal

Here’s the girl’s take on the five points:

You don’t have ambition

This is huge! At work, we have a lot of free time. A LOT. It really bothers me that one of my coworkers never does anything with that free time. Never has a book to read, never does his homework during his shift (we are allowed to do whatever we want here. I’ve balanced my checkbook here, I write all my articles here, organize paperwork…) I’m not advocating that it’s wrong to sit around and do nothing. Just not all day! It just makes me wonder, time is what makes up life, and I feel like asking him, “What are you doing today, now, to get you where you want to be in the future? Do you have any goals you can work towards during all this wasted free time?” I’ve had conversations with him and he doesn’t seem to have any hobbies or career aspirations besides just making a living. I wonder, what are his passions? Does he have any?

On the other hand, I talk to a certain Mr. Sleepless in Seattle and he shares his dreams of inventing something, catching a spearhead steelhead (thanks for the correction, baby) trout (which is really rare and hard to catch). He helps his neighbors and does free construction jobs on the weekends, and he actually finds joy in helping people. When I was in Washington he showed me two huge sky scrapers he helped build. He’s done rock crawling, white water kayaking, mountain biking, rock climbing, sky diving, surfing, snowboarding, backpacking. And he’s taken up dance lessons because he knows how much I love to dance!

See with the first guy, I just see someone who isn’t living his life to the fullest. On the other hand, Mr. Sleepless in Seattle is living his life, both giving to his community and making the most of his strong, youthful physique. We are planning adventures together. I’ve always wanted to go spelunking, and we plan to do that together. With him I know I’ll constantly be challenged to go beyond my comfort zone and that excites me! I know I can learn so much from him! And I know that it won’t be boring and he won’t be looking at me to entertain him. That takes a lot of pressure off me. When someone has ambition and is living their life to the fullest, it takes off a lot of pressure from a partner to be the one to make them happy. They are already living an exciting, fun life! Remember both sexes desire to be with people who will enrich their lives! If you see yourself falling short in this area, go figure out what makes you come alive. Go figure out your passions.

You don’t follow through

There are few things more unattractive than a man who isn’t responsible, who doesn’t call when he says he will, who doesn’t show up when he says he will. These are like little tiny eensy-weensy things that don’t seem to matter, but in reality, each time you are losing your credibility as someone who is honest and has integrity. Better to not make promises than to break them. Remember the mantra: underpromise, overdeliver. NOT overpromise, underdeliver.

You give her too much or too little attention

Too much initially looks like you’re not even trying to make a discerning choice or wanting to know a girl for who she is. It just looks like you’re desperate to just be with any girl. It also could be a sign that you have no life. (back to point number 1!)

If you tend to give women too little attention, maybe you shouldn’t be dating right now. Every woman wants to be a top priority in a man’s life. If you’re single for awhile, you’ll probably get to the point where you realize you are ready to put a woman front and center in your life (unless you’re George Clooney!)and you’re willing to let a woman (the right woman) be your priority above your friends, hobbies and career. Until then, don’t even bother! Woman are so much work!

You’re just not her type

This is one you have no control over. Yes, some women do have types. Mine happens to be shy Caucasian brunettes who have some nerdiness and athleticism in them. Do I wish I didn’t have a type? Yes. Do I have any control who I’m attracted to? No. So oh well. You may or may not have a type. If you do, then you have to understand women do as well. If you don’t, it might not make sense, but hey, the heart wants what(or who) it wants:)

You don’t see her as an equal

If you don’t view women as equals, you’re not going to be able to hide this belief. I would have to say in this case, it’s not a matter of just changing your behavior, it’s a matter of getting to the root of the problem: distorted beliefs you picked up somewhere along the way. Read some books, talk to someone.

*personal note: Oh, Mr. Sleepless in Seattle, no wonder I’m just that into you! You are so amazing, and I want the whole world to know it:)