Culture is developed over time. It springs forth from small, seemingly insignificant events that meld together to form everything from the way we speak, eat, walk, relate to others to ultimately the way we view life.
And today, we live in a society that has the ease of Dating Apps as a way to get to know anyone.
Don’t worry… if that special someone doesn’t work out you can swipe right on someone else. It never really hurts when something doesn’t work out. Our Dating App is just a download away, and there is a world of people waiting.
Dating has always been hard. It is challenging to find that one right person in a sea of personalities, dependencies and quirks.
But now we don’t even have to try.
I think this generation has it worse than trying to find a partner during the time of cholera.
There are a whole new set of problems in the dating world that no one has had to deal with before:
- The person you are dating is dating 10 other people
- No sense of accountability
- Eff-boys (insert explicative)
- Netflix and Chill
- And worst of all, disposable people
Disposable People: The idea that a person does not matter to me because there is replacement waiting has seeped into the dating fabric that society is weaving.
People are not disposable.
They deserve to know why you don’t want to talk, hang out or Netflix and chill anymore. It is a hard conversation to have, but it is one that builds character.
If the hard things were easy, everyone would do them. (Tom Hanks said this, or something like it in the classic 90s movie, A League of Their Own.)
Dating Apps can be wonderful. However, as you use them and become accustomed to the ease of meeting people, I admonish you not to think of people as replaceable or disposable. Weigh the cost before you decide to invest in them, and consider their heart when you do.
The Wisdom of Bob Marley
Bob Marley said, “The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman without the intention of loving her.” The current dating app generation needs to hear and listen to this quote, both men and women. Do not lead a person on, just to dismiss and dispose of them with out explanation, rhyme or reason.
It is simply the golden rule. Treat others as you want to be treated; Don’t be a jerk.
Are you okay?