For Single Guys

How to Put the Fun Back into Dating

Advice from My Friend Gabe

Do you expect your best friend to be everything for you? Probably not. You go out with some friends. They are your entertainment buddies. You share your deepest secrets with other friends. You know they are trustworthy. And still you get advice from other friends. You know they are wise, and you trust their opinion. This friend makes you laugh. You appreciate his humor. This friend tells it like it is. You appreciate that she is candid. You have travel buddies, eating buddies, movie buddies. You have childhood friends who you can talk to after months, even years have passed, and pick up exactly where you left off. You have friends who push you out of your comfort zone... And friends you turn to when your heart is breaking. The point is this:
You don't expect any one friend to have everything you're looking for in a friendship. Each person is unique and brings something new to the table, just like you do for them...
Why is it then... that sometimes we expect our significant other... to be everything for us?

Big DON’T: Mentioning Her Body During Initial Stages of Getting to Know Her

You don't want to get slapped do you???? I have a long backlog of inquiries from readers that I realize are great to share so that everyone can learn and contribute to the discussion! Why haven't I thought about this before? (Oh yeah, I did, but I'm too lazy to cut and paste them from my email???? LOL) I guess I just have too much to say about dating/relationships/love in general. Right now I have 35 drafts in my blog, just waiting to be published. Writing. It's my new addiction. And I'm loving every moment of it. So here's a great email I got.

What Really Matters

You know how people are attracted to certain qualities in the opposite sex?
  • She can cook.
  • She can speak four languages.
  • She can paint.
  • She can play the piano.
  • The guy can sing.
  • He can dance.
  • He's in a band.
  • He can quote Shakespeare.
  • He has mad nunchuck skills. :)
  • He can fill in the blank.