I’m talking about unmatched success in career and your love life….

Hmmm… my awesome coworker, a social venturist philosopher for our times posed this question.

He mentioned that 3rd Rock deals with this theme.

His theory is that both endeavors require all a person has.

What do you think????

He doesn’t think you can have equally unmatched success in both your career and your love life because both endeavors require all a person has.

This reminded me of a piece of advice my mom told me in the past.

She said, “Don’t ever marry a doctor. A great doctor has to be married to his career. You’ll never be his top priority. And then if he’s not a great doctor, you’ll be dealing with a man dealing with failure—which will affect your relationship. Either way, you’ll lose.”

Gosh! What do you guys think?

Can you really have it all?

I’m wondering this because I’ve noticed that being involved with someone— (I haven’t had to work anyone into my schedule in five years! It’s all very new.) Well, they have a way of dominating your time.

It’s a very favorable transition, highly welcomed in fact… but I’m finding it harder to balance all the other people and things that filled up my schedule before he came into the picture.

He has a way of inspiring my writing, but I’m also not any closer to reaching my career goals either.

(But hey, I wasn’t closer to reaching my career goals before he came into the picture! Haha. Is it just my fears of moving forward, taking a risk career-wise? hmmm… maybe.)

I’m also noticing that I’d much rather talk to him than my other friends.

I’ve apologized to friends for my absence.

I’ve asked them if this is all normal– that a new person starts to dominate your time and thoughts.

They told me it is.

I don’t like the feeling of not having control over this. Like that stupid saying, the heart wants what it wants.

I hate that saying! (Because I find the heart is not as reliable a guide as the mind. Feelings are volatile.)

So my mind is telling me, You don’t have to talk to him everyday. That’s silly.

But at every late night goodbye, my heart is saying, Don’t hang up. Who cares if you’re dragging at work the next day? This is what life is made of. Revel in its sweet goodness.

And I’m reminded of what my ex, Billy, said to me years back, which I’ve never forgotten. He said:

My all-or-nothing, highly excessive personality has a hard time grasping this concept.

With only 24 hours in a day, how do people manage all the things and people vying for their attention?

Moms are my new sheros.

Especially those moms who find time for nurturing a marriage, raising upstanding kids, managing their dreams and career, fostering their relationships with friends, and stay involved in their community and church. WOW. Can anyone say superwoman????

Do you know anyone who “Has it all?”

Please. Please. I want to disprove my friend’s theory!

I want to believe I can have it all.

But if I can’t have it all, I’d rather have unmatched success at home. This song by Westlife reminds me that you can have world renown fame, success and more money than you’ll ever need, but none of that really matters. Home is what matters, and home is being with the ones you love.