Best Piece of Relationship Advice from Rene Zellweger
September 18th, 2009 by MidoriLei
What’s the best piece of relationship advice you ever received?
You mean, received and not paid attention to? That there’s certain things you can’t compromise.
What’s one thing you would never compromise on?
I don’t compromise on what I value. I don’t compromise on my moral constitution. I don’t compromise on the things that would dissipate my self-respect in any way.
Very wise Ms. Zellweger!
Now the question is, what do you value?
Here’s what I value:
Now I’m just thinking about the other two points—
what I believe would compromise my moral constitution:
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what I think would dissipate my self respect:
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Dear readers, what would you put down in either or both of those???? help!
September 20th, 2009 at 10:14 am
The plain truth is, most men won’t analyze this much. I don’t think we have the capacity to do so, hmmmh.
September 21st, 2009 at 8:24 am
haha. Well how about the ladies?
December 2nd, 2009 at 11:53 am
Very sound advice. No one commented on your questions, so I figured I would chime in.
“what I believe would compromise my moral constitution”
Simply put, if they put you in a situation that would cause you to go against your values it would compromise your morals.
It is possible that your morals are flawed, however. For this reason, you should take the time to evaluate your morals, determine if they align properly with your values, determine if your morals/values on the issue are warranted, reasonable and logically tenable. If your morality stands after such an evaluation, the person is trying to make you compromise on your morals and should be avoided. Additionally, even if your morals are flawed, no one should ask you to compromise your morals, at least those with a negative prescription (they shouldn’t make you do something you do not want to do due to moral objections), if they ask you to compromise on a positive moral prescription (as in, you are morally obligated to action as opposed to inaction) then you’ve got room to think. That’s probably over-analyzing things but I’ve got quite the interest in morality.
“what I think would dissipate my self respect”
This is also simple, humiliation. If someone humiliates you, they don’t respect you and they don’t want you to respect yourself. If they do things to you to dehumanize you or emasculate you (if your male), then you need to call them on it and walk away. “I am a human being and I deserve respect. You cannot treat me like that and expect me to stick around for it.” My view on this is simply that we are the only one’s allowed to humiliate ourselves. If we want to make fools of ourselves, that’s our right. But that right is an exclusive right.
It is important to note the difference between humiliation and teasing/joking. It’s really just a matter of the degree and intent of the joke being made. If the intent is simply to ellicit a laugh and no one is hurt by it, then all is well. If the intent is to degrade and tear down a person, then that’s not right by any stretch and you should stand up for yourself.
December 2nd, 2009 at 9:13 pm
Nathaniel, THANK YOU! What a thought out response. And I agree… someone humiliating me would definitely get the boot.