So many men are passive, just like this sentence. The problem with passive sentences is that they tend to bore the reader and the reader loses interest. The problem with passive men is that they tend to bore women and women lose interest.
Men are passive about:
* Pursuing women – maybe it’s the lack of a “biological clock.” Maybe in an effort to empower women through feminism, women have started pursuing men, and men would rather just sit back and wait. ( We thought we empowered ourselves by taking on their role, but instead we ended up cutting them slack in the dating department and making them passive.)
* Finding what the heck it is they were meant to do in this life – My brother told me once that because a man’s role is to lead, he needs to be clear about his plans. That way, a woman can respond in her given role and say “Yes, I’m willing to follow you in that dream,” or “Adios, good luck with that,” and move on.
Part of a woman’s security and fulfillment in a relationship is knowing that she can support a man in his dreams and that she is proud to back him up. That is why she needs to know what it is that a man wants to do with his life.
Here’s what relationships without a purpose look like:
We view love relationships like this, but this gets old really fast. You think you’re getting bored with each other, but really you’re getting bored because you are living without a purpose beyond yourselves.
Living just to please each other makes for a stagnant existence, because you’re not moving forward.
Here’s what relationships with a purpose look like:
We need to view love relationships like this. This never gets old. You don’t have time to get bored because there is a goal in mind.
Living to serve together makes for an exciting, fulfilling, meaningful existence because you’re moving forward and in the same direction.
As humans, we were meant to bring something to this earth while we are here, not just live to consume. Deep down we want to know that our existence was meaningful. That’s why it feels good to serve.
It’s no wonder my heart shut down when a date told me, “Oh, I don’t volunteer.”
It’s no wonder my heart opened up when a guy told me, “I just want to make a difference…”
The first showed passivity, an existence that lacked selfless service. The second showed activity, an existence that displayed a desire for selfless service. Now that’s hot. The problem with passivity is that women want to see a man in action. That’s why the players get the applause and the benchwarmers get ignored.