Are You 30-Something and Single?
March 30th, 2010 by MidoriLei
(There’s something about planning a wedding that kinda sorta really manages to take up all my brain space. So sorry for this long sabbatical.)
Just wanted to share what seems like an interesting documentary, albeit controversial for the traditional girl that I am. What do you think folks? Could you find a “happily ever after” without marriage? Do you need to be the “best version of yourself” before you get married? What do you think about being single in your 30s? Did you get married because it’s what society expected of you at a certain age?
March 31st, 2010 at 2:40 pm
I truly believe you can find a happily ever after without marriage. You see, most people see a ring as the ultimate sign of dedication, trust, companionship, love… but do you really NEED a ring for that?
No. You can be perfectly faithful, dedicated, loved and loving without a ring. It’s just that we grew up watching Hollywood and tv shows (and religion) telling us that we’re “supposed” to get a ring when we want to live together and have kids with someone.
Take me for example. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and are still very much into each other, but we can’t get married because she’s from a different culture (and country) than I am.
Meanwhile, we both know that we’re already totally dedicated, loving, loved, trustworthy etc. as married couples are… so in my opinion, getting married is old fashioned and a little outdated.
Besides, if you “have to, got to” see a ring before you’re faithful to a guy (or woman) or think the other person will be faithful, then it displays more insecurity than love…
To More Dating Success,
Dennis Miedema
Win With Women
April 1st, 2010 at 11:13 am
Call me old or old-fashioned but society’s trend toward living together instead of getting married (or living together for a while UNTIL you get married) is not all it’s cracked up to be. There is a reason marriage has been an institution for 1000′s of years (even though a lot of guys no doubt enjoy the unfettered freedom to walk out the door anytime they want without having to deal with a lawyer).
Check out this study published in the New York Times from a few weeks back and done by the National Center for Health Statistics using data from the National Survey of Family Growth conducted in 2002: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/03/us/03marry.html
All the best,
EduCupid (aka Steve)
April 5th, 2010 at 11:45 am
Marriage is cool if your into that kind of thing. Really it’s just about what you want.
April 9th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
I have seen this trailer before and loved it just as much as the second time.
Of course being single has it’s perks, so does being married. Both can also be a living hell.
Life is really about love. To love and be loved is to know the heart of God.
If you are not interested in a sexual relationship and are happy being single then there are so many other ways to have a completely fulfilling life with love – this could be as noble as volunteering in or running an orphanage or just caring for an invalid relative, or making the most of every day and blessing others in small ways such as a smile, or giving a present with no strings attached.
If however you are like most of us who appreciate all life has to offer then there are two choices – accepting less (casual affairs or defacto relationship which does work for so many people… until it doesn’t) or get married.
The solution for a single is definitely not to get married. Say what???? However if you have met someone special, have similar values and most importantly 2 other things – 1) to learn how to be a relationship (which does not come naturally for all bar a chosen few…) and 2) have a common goal or purpose. This could be as simple as having the house with the white picket fence, good job, 2 kids and coach baseball, or it could be raising the awareness of abundance worldwide! Then of course get married and you can choose to love your partner every day of your life.
So in other words – it is just what you want your life to be then learn how to make it happen!!
April 23rd, 2010 at 8:43 am
I couldn’t get married after 30. I don’t believe In God but I think getting married is amazing. I can’t wait to wake up next to my husband and be thankful each day to have him. I’m in my 20s and I have my own dating blog with one goal in mind – to get married in 6 weeks! http://www.carlysdatingchronicles.com
April 29th, 2010 at 7:44 pm
I always thought I would never be a marrying kind…but I have changed ever since I met my boyfriend.
My value and prospects have changed …not because of him but it was a natural change. I know it is very corny but I think true love changes you…in a good way.