So he hasn’t made a definite move yet? Hmmm… Here are some possibilities:

(1) He’s just not that into you. I know, I know, it sounds harsh, but it’s a possibility. In order to protect myself from heartache, this is what you should always assume is going on until you absolutely know otherwise. Meaning, he tells you in the declarative that he’s interested. By doing this, you give him motivation to make things clear and, you also protect and guard your heart from getting to attached to something you’re not even sure is there.

(2) He’s into you, but he’s shy and it will take him more time to express himself…but I hesitate to mention this as a possibility, because it’s so overused as a universal excuse for why a guy isn’t pursuing a girl, when actually #1 is the reason. And the result is that the girl thinks, “Well, I’m not shy, so I’ll just help him out a bit,” and she basically pursues him.

(3) He’s into you, but he’s waiting for more confirmation that his attraction to you is not just a passing attraction. Men are attracted to many women. Women assume that because they are attracted, that must mean they want a relationship. That’s not true. Guys who are not shy will jump before looking, but shy guys tend to be more deliberate about their decisions in general. They think before they speak, and they also think before they act. This is actually the best possibility, because it means he’s thinking about you in that way. He may also be doing his research on you, and laying the groundwork of a good friendship, without previously engaging your heart. You know, and I know that your heart is already somewhat engaged, but he probably doesn’t know this, since you’re not assuming more than is verbally stated (#1) and thus acting accordingly. Way too many men make the mistake of securing a woman’s heart first, then trying to decide if she’s actually The One. True Love would approach romance from the opposite end: deciding if she’s more than just eye candy and then and only then securing her heart.

-Adapted from a myspace message from my good friend and mentor, Jacki, a math teacher in Korea