A Letter for Every Good, Decent, Single Christian Guy Who Just Wants to Find Miss Right

This letter is written specifically for a Christian guy. So if you’re not Christian, some of it might not make sense. But for the Christian guy who’s holding out for a virtuous woman, don’t give up on your search. She’s out there. I’ve met and befriended a number of Christian women who are waiting for you to find them. They are gems. They are worth the wait.

What she’d want you to know

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I love thinking about the intricacies of dating, love and life. I share my tiny lessons in the hope that it helps you as you navigate the dating world.

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  1. Liza James

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  2. Laarni Echivarre

    Most of the article are very inforamative and educational for all the Christian singles…

  3. cele


    The letter sounds like the kind of explanation I have received in the past. I applaud the fact that it actually attempts to explain what is going in the woman’s mind as opposed to just dismissing someone without an explanation.

    1) How would respond to the statement that some make which claims that “a woman will only be focused on her career until she meets the right guy” – meaning, the explanation of being preoccupied with a career is really more of an excuse if you are not the right guy – otherwise the career option is thrown out of the window if the right guy comes along.

    2) How does a guy know when to be patient versus when to move on ? Sometimes women will give a nice explanation such your letter and yet they don’t really want the guy to stick around – they are just trying to be nice about rejecting the guy because they recognize that he is a great guy but he is just not the right one for her.

  4. MidoriLei


    Any woman who is too preoccupied with her career to notice a guy– he may or may not be the right guy. The “right” guy isn’t so easy to spot. The right guy makes it too easy– doesn’t play games, so it may not also be as “exciting” as with other guys a girl has been with in the past… The point is that women may use their preoccupation with a career as an excuse if they are not interested in a guy… but that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s the wrong guy. It’s up to the guy to see how long he’s willing to wait to prove to her he is the “right” guy for her. If she is not responsive right away, it’s basically up to him if he’s willing to take the time and effort to convince her that he is the right guy.

    every situation is different. For some men, an initial reject will turn into something with persistence. For other men, a “no” will continue to be a “no.” If she likes someone else, that maybe the case. If she is not remotely physically attracted to the guy, that may also be the case. But there’s really no way of reading whether or not this is the case. Only time and persistence will determine if a no will turn into a yes.

  5. Huni

    I soooo totally posted and shared as a note on FB!! THANKS!!! SO NICE!

  6. MidoriLei

    thank you Huni!

  7. MtVlieger

    Hey Midori, I normally don’t post to things like this, but IO wanted to say it was encouraging to a single Christian male waiting for the right person. I know God has a specific plan for me because He has shown me that I should not settle for a woman that is not a Godly, sold out to Jesus woman. It’s hard to wait cause I meet lots of nice woman I like. I will keep waiting and keep waiting for her.

  8. MidoriLei


    Thank you for your comment. I’m happy I could encourage you. Praise God. I really believe that when she’s your “Eve” you will know it, flaws and all. Don’t let her past mistakes influence your decision. Her true devotion to God and desire to love and serve him above all things is what matters.

  9. MtVlieger

    I completely agree, and I wont let the past get in the way of how I feel about her. We all make mistakes. I am actually a songwriter/musician, and I have a song dealing with this exact topic. It’s one of my favorites.

    God Bless!

  10. Chung Fabrizius

    Thx for information.

  11. Mia

    I absolutely love this ♡ ♡

  12. Mia


  13. Laarni Echivarre

    Just wanted to share my thoughts to every singles who are contemplating marriage. That before considering a mate, a wo/man is to look for someone who has a personal relationship with the Lord.

    For if someone marries, both should be much more passionate in serving God and not to regress with their faith. Relationship with the Lord, should become more stronger and maturing as ever.
    There is no reason for him/her to get married and still be impoverished in all aspects. The role of a partner, is to watch for each others sake and increases each faith to the next level. By then both can move heavenward.

    For a single desiring a mate, the objective, of course, would be to find a Christian wo/man, who has a firm foundation in God, Spirit filled, settled with Godly priorities, pleasant, and has a good rapport with any classification of people. But a goal-oriented and Godly wo/man can’t just be approached at any kind of way. So the wo/man who seeks this type of stability must make sure that he/she also kept his/her Godly standard. Hence, allow the lord to become a matchmaker as He takes full control of every follower.

    As women, we don’t need to go after a man He’s going to come after you, otherwise it is not God’s divine appointment.
    A man also should have the courage to pursue a woman and make every effort to please her! Other than this, then relationship becomes worthless and not God centered.
    An obedient woman should only sit still and allow patience to have a perfect work in her while waiting for God’s will.

    For woman, it’s never a good idea to be too forward and too aggressive. Attempting to win a man’s affection by doing what he is been pleased to. Trying in vain to capture a man’s heart would only lose a woman’s value and self respect and allowing other people to question your character especially when you are a Christian believer.

    Ask God to ‘create a clean heart and renewed a right spirit.’ Stand in the word. Then wait upon the Lord to renew your strength.

    This message is not directed at the receiver, it is directed to singles who disciple other singles as well.

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