A Letter for Every Good, Decent, Single Christian Guy Who Just Wants to Find Miss Right
May 8th, 2008 by MidoriLei
This letter is written specifically for a Christian guy. So if you’re not Christian, some of it might not make sense. But for the Christian guy who’s holding out for a virtuous woman, don’t give up on your search. She’s out there. I’ve met and befriended a number of Christian women who are waiting for you to find them. They are gems. They are worth the wait.
What she’d want you to know
May 8th, 2008 at 11:17 am
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July 22nd, 2009 at 7:58 am
Most of the article are very inforamative and educational for all the Christian singles…
September 3rd, 2010 at 5:09 pm
Midori
The letter sounds like the kind of explanation I have received in the past. I applaud the fact that it actually attempts to explain what is going in the woman’s mind as opposed to just dismissing someone without an explanation.
Questions:
1) How would respond to the statement that some make which claims that “a woman will only be focused on her career until she meets the right guy” – meaning, the explanation of being preoccupied with a career is really more of an excuse if you are not the right guy – otherwise the career option is thrown out of the window if the right guy comes along.
2) How does a guy know when to be patient versus when to move on ? Sometimes women will give a nice explanation such your letter and yet they don’t really want the guy to stick around – they are just trying to be nice about rejecting the guy because they recognize that he is a great guy but he is just not the right one for her.
September 6th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
cele,
Any woman who is too preoccupied with her career to notice a guy– he may or may not be the right guy. The “right” guy isn’t so easy to spot. The right guy makes it too easy– doesn’t play games, so it may not also be as “exciting” as with other guys a girl has been with in the past… The point is that women may use their preoccupation with a career as an excuse if they are not interested in a guy… but that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s the wrong guy. It’s up to the guy to see how long he’s willing to wait to prove to her he is the “right” guy for her. If she is not responsive right away, it’s basically up to him if he’s willing to take the time and effort to convince her that he is the right guy.
every situation is different. For some men, an initial reject will turn into something with persistence. For other men, a “no” will continue to be a “no.” If she likes someone else, that maybe the case. If she is not remotely physically attracted to the guy, that may also be the case. But there’s really no way of reading whether or not this is the case. Only time and persistence will determine if a no will turn into a yes.
January 25th, 2011 at 2:53 am
I soooo totally posted and shared as a note on FB!! THANKS!!! SO NICE!
January 26th, 2011 at 5:15 pm
thank you Huni!
March 28th, 2011 at 1:37 am
Hey Midori, I normally don’t post to things like this, but IO wanted to say it was encouraging to a single Christian male waiting for the right person. I know God has a specific plan for me because He has shown me that I should not settle for a woman that is not a Godly, sold out to Jesus woman. It’s hard to wait cause I meet lots of nice woman I like. I will keep waiting and keep waiting for her.
March 28th, 2011 at 5:22 pm
MTVlieger,
Thank you for your comment. I’m happy I could encourage you. Praise God. I really believe that when she’s your “Eve” you will know it, flaws and all. Don’t let her past mistakes influence your decision. Her true devotion to God and desire to love and serve him above all things is what matters.
March 28th, 2011 at 6:57 pm
I completely agree, and I wont let the past get in the way of how I feel about her. We all make mistakes. I am actually a songwriter/musician, and I have a song dealing with this exact topic. It’s one of my favorites.
God Bless!